Thursday, May 29, 2008
Hengman: About Routines And Gimmicks To A Natural Finish.
Alright, so I'm not a firm believer in routines and gimmicks. By routines, I mean a set form of what to do each night when you guys go out. I don't have a problem with people using routines and gimmicks, but I do have a problem with how people are using them and how these techniques are utilized in field. I see a lot of rookie mistakes when it comes to pure gaming. Gaming should feel, look, and be natural. Using routines doesn't necessarily count anybody out from being natural, but it's something about guys I see who use routines incorrectly that pisses me off. Or, sometimes, guys take things out of context when it comes to game. I want to see guys become naturals. Here is my take on ways to become natural without being natural:
So, I'm a natural in field when it comes to attraction, but I do get off my game at times. I don't rely on any type of set standards when it comes to game (except the idea of social proof, DHV, etc.). Here are rookie mistakes that I see consistently that involves routines and gimmicks:
1) The idea of peacocking gone wrong. Yes, I've been seeing this more and more. To me, this is a routine. Like I said, there's nothing wrong with peacocking, but seriously; please do not go overboard with this. To me, it gives me a perception of lower value and when I do ask girls opinions about how guys dress in the stupid kind of "peacock" manner, they find it low value. Peacocking is a way of expressing your inner game and values to the environment you're in; not showing how stupid you could look for a fashion show.
2) Warm up approaches... There is no such fuckin' thing. Once you're in a venue, you're there for two reasons: having fun and getting pulls. This is a routine, by which, is a set form of what you do every time you go out. So recently, there was one of my friends who "thinks" he can pull chicks. However, if you get blown out and tell me it's a warm up approach, why is she the fuckin' hottest girl in the venue? Never give that bullshit. Warm up approaches is just an excuse for getting rejected. Solution for this is to move on and look for more targets and then come back. Pretty much like shopping.
3) Quantity over quality. I am really fuckin' tired of seeing guys get five hundred numbers, but getting only one ring pick up on the phone. I know some of you guys like to get as many numbers as possible, but it's the worst routine I have seen yet. Why get so many numbers and waste valuable time? Getting twenty numbers from ugly ass girls doesn't make you good at pick up. It makes you good at getting rotten pussy.
4) Having to prove something each night. Alright, so recently, I had a good talk with a fellow Philly lair cat. Well, more like last month. He told me that whenever he sees someone with a hot chick, he has to compete. To me, this is beta behavior. Being alpha is being a guy who knows that he can get whatever he wants and that he knows he doesn't have to compete with anybody. Do not make this mistake in field.
So anyways, these were things that I've been seeing recently when I was in field. I hope nobody ever make these mistakes in field because it is VERY sad to watch.
Being natural is pretty easy to recognize within yourself. If anything is comfortable to you, it's natural. If it isn't, make it natural. Once you know you're natural, your inner game is tight. At least, that's what I believe.
"Be like water, my friend." -Bruce Lee.
Become natural.
-Hengman.
P.S. Stupid cats are having sex and it's so fuckin' loud. It's fuckin' 4:52AM right now.
So, I'm a natural in field when it comes to attraction, but I do get off my game at times. I don't rely on any type of set standards when it comes to game (except the idea of social proof, DHV, etc.). Here are rookie mistakes that I see consistently that involves routines and gimmicks:
1) The idea of peacocking gone wrong. Yes, I've been seeing this more and more. To me, this is a routine. Like I said, there's nothing wrong with peacocking, but seriously; please do not go overboard with this. To me, it gives me a perception of lower value and when I do ask girls opinions about how guys dress in the stupid kind of "peacock" manner, they find it low value. Peacocking is a way of expressing your inner game and values to the environment you're in; not showing how stupid you could look for a fashion show.
2) Warm up approaches... There is no such fuckin' thing. Once you're in a venue, you're there for two reasons: having fun and getting pulls. This is a routine, by which, is a set form of what you do every time you go out. So recently, there was one of my friends who "thinks" he can pull chicks. However, if you get blown out and tell me it's a warm up approach, why is she the fuckin' hottest girl in the venue? Never give that bullshit. Warm up approaches is just an excuse for getting rejected. Solution for this is to move on and look for more targets and then come back. Pretty much like shopping.
3) Quantity over quality. I am really fuckin' tired of seeing guys get five hundred numbers, but getting only one ring pick up on the phone. I know some of you guys like to get as many numbers as possible, but it's the worst routine I have seen yet. Why get so many numbers and waste valuable time? Getting twenty numbers from ugly ass girls doesn't make you good at pick up. It makes you good at getting rotten pussy.
4) Having to prove something each night. Alright, so recently, I had a good talk with a fellow Philly lair cat. Well, more like last month. He told me that whenever he sees someone with a hot chick, he has to compete. To me, this is beta behavior. Being alpha is being a guy who knows that he can get whatever he wants and that he knows he doesn't have to compete with anybody. Do not make this mistake in field.
So anyways, these were things that I've been seeing recently when I was in field. I hope nobody ever make these mistakes in field because it is VERY sad to watch.
Being natural is pretty easy to recognize within yourself. If anything is comfortable to you, it's natural. If it isn't, make it natural. Once you know you're natural, your inner game is tight. At least, that's what I believe.
"Be like water, my friend." -Bruce Lee.
Become natural.
-Hengman.
P.S. Stupid cats are having sex and it's so fuckin' loud. It's fuckin' 4:52AM right now.
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
FR: Recovery
I don't know what the rules are on double posting here but I have to pour my brains out before they explode. If you want to just see the FR then skip ahead a paragraph.
So my game has been stepped up a notch, not so much in quality (which is of course growing) but more in terms of when and where. I think it was Tyler Durden who said: "It's always on" but this is absolutely ridiculous. I don't do another else now except study for school, skateboard and pickup. Everywhere I go now I am opening sets and it's coming off as really high value I think.
So anyways...to the point.
I had last n-closed the HBCuteBrunette and set up a day 2. Unfortunately my last real sarge session was interrupted and I only ended up with one number close since. Anyways HBCuteBrunette flaked on me but I'm not sure what was really going on, I think it was boyfriend problems because she was really non-flakey after she broke up.
Reminder #1: Don't be afraid to BFD.
I was really about to just say "Fuck her, next" because she really wasn't worth it. All of a sudden BAM shes texting IOI's to me like crazy and sets up a day 2 for the evening at starbucks.
I roll in, a little fashionably late and theres a guy and HBPlatinumBlonde (she got flaked on earlier so I told her to come chill with us) sitting with her. I soon discovered (after shaking his hand and running a little AMOG stuff on him) that he had number closed HBCuteBrunette earlier that day. That was all I needed and from then on I totally stole the frame for the rest of the night. The only time he got a word in was when he was talking directly to me. Later on my wing would show up, invited by HBPlatinumBlonde and super AMOG him with this exact line:
Wing: Hey, are you two cousins or something? You look the same!
HBCuteBrunette: OMG! NO! Hides face and giggles like crazy.
They didn't talk for the rest of the night.
Now normally my wing is horrible with game because he has horrible AA but when his skips the opener hes a pure A-Game natural and I have a real hard time competing with him. WE don't try and compete but when we can't isolate and we both got our targets in set it's pretty tough. Today however, was a different day and I am positive I out gamed him.
One problem persisted however...I had over negged HBCuteBrunette, this is a problem I had been having lately but had been getting better with.
Reminder #2: Don't neg unless it is needed.
I wasn't sure how to recover and my game was starting to dissolve until we went up to get drinks.
Shadow5a: Hey, HB6?
It really hurts me to call her an HB6, she's an amazing girl, but it's just the truth.
HB6: Oh wow, hey how's it going? I haven't seen you in so long!
Now I didn't think I was going to get any preselection AS' from her but she really DHV'd herself in front of my target. She showed me active IOI's and as I ran a little subtle game on her she invited me to go check out her new car. I figured if I had any chance to recover, this was it, leave for five minutes.
HBCuteBrunette couldn't see the car so she had no idea that we just chilled and talked but I could tell she thought otherwise.
Reminder #3: Don't be afraid to leave the set.
I bid goodbye to her, strolled back in and when my wing showed I performed my first PUA inspired bounce and HBCuteBrunette was punching my arm giggling. I never realized how powerful the bounce was until now, I was just practicing but it was very useful. This way I could arrange seating so we isolated our targets as well.
So much more to this day than is here but this post is already too long so these are just the highlights. At the end of the day I walked her home and took my first profile picture:
Shadow5a: Here I want a picture with you
HBCuteBrunette: Oh but I look like shit!
Shadow5a: Bullshit come here gorgeous Takes picture
HBCuteBrunette: What do you want a picture for?
Shadow5a: Well I need something to jack off to later silly!
HBCuteBrunette: Giggles hysterically
Shadow5a: What? I always masturbate to pictures of myself!
HBCuteBrunette: Laughs like crazy
Reminder #4: Go for a k-close when BT is spiking
Well thanks guys I'm out,
Shadow5a
So my game has been stepped up a notch, not so much in quality (which is of course growing) but more in terms of when and where. I think it was Tyler Durden who said: "It's always on" but this is absolutely ridiculous. I don't do another else now except study for school, skateboard and pickup. Everywhere I go now I am opening sets and it's coming off as really high value I think.
So anyways...to the point.
I had last n-closed the HBCuteBrunette and set up a day 2. Unfortunately my last real sarge session was interrupted and I only ended up with one number close since. Anyways HBCuteBrunette flaked on me but I'm not sure what was really going on, I think it was boyfriend problems because she was really non-flakey after she broke up.
Reminder #1: Don't be afraid to BFD.
I was really about to just say "Fuck her, next" because she really wasn't worth it. All of a sudden BAM shes texting IOI's to me like crazy and sets up a day 2 for the evening at starbucks.
I roll in, a little fashionably late and theres a guy and HBPlatinumBlonde (she got flaked on earlier so I told her to come chill with us) sitting with her. I soon discovered (after shaking his hand and running a little AMOG stuff on him) that he had number closed HBCuteBrunette earlier that day. That was all I needed and from then on I totally stole the frame for the rest of the night. The only time he got a word in was when he was talking directly to me. Later on my wing would show up, invited by HBPlatinumBlonde and super AMOG him with this exact line:
Wing: Hey, are you two cousins or something? You look the same!
HBCuteBrunette: OMG! NO! Hides face and giggles like crazy.
They didn't talk for the rest of the night.
Now normally my wing is horrible with game because he has horrible AA but when his skips the opener hes a pure A-Game natural and I have a real hard time competing with him. WE don't try and compete but when we can't isolate and we both got our targets in set it's pretty tough. Today however, was a different day and I am positive I out gamed him.
One problem persisted however...I had over negged HBCuteBrunette, this is a problem I had been having lately but had been getting better with.
Reminder #2: Don't neg unless it is needed.
I wasn't sure how to recover and my game was starting to dissolve until we went up to get drinks.
Shadow5a: Hey, HB6?
It really hurts me to call her an HB6, she's an amazing girl, but it's just the truth.
HB6: Oh wow, hey how's it going? I haven't seen you in so long!
Now I didn't think I was going to get any preselection AS' from her but she really DHV'd herself in front of my target. She showed me active IOI's and as I ran a little subtle game on her she invited me to go check out her new car. I figured if I had any chance to recover, this was it, leave for five minutes.
HBCuteBrunette couldn't see the car so she had no idea that we just chilled and talked but I could tell she thought otherwise.
Reminder #3: Don't be afraid to leave the set.
I bid goodbye to her, strolled back in and when my wing showed I performed my first PUA inspired bounce and HBCuteBrunette was punching my arm giggling. I never realized how powerful the bounce was until now, I was just practicing but it was very useful. This way I could arrange seating so we isolated our targets as well.
So much more to this day than is here but this post is already too long so these are just the highlights. At the end of the day I walked her home and took my first profile picture:
Shadow5a: Here I want a picture with you
HBCuteBrunette: Oh but I look like shit!
Shadow5a: Bullshit come here gorgeous Takes picture
HBCuteBrunette: What do you want a picture for?
Shadow5a: Well I need something to jack off to later silly!
HBCuteBrunette: Giggles hysterically
Shadow5a: What? I always masturbate to pictures of myself!
HBCuteBrunette: Laughs like crazy
Reminder #4: Go for a k-close when BT is spiking
Well thanks guys I'm out,
Shadow5a
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
FR: First Close
Alright so I'm making progress over the bullshit with my closing, heres the report:
So me and my wing were feeling the urge to go out and sarge hardcore, our plans to go to a party earlier was ruined so we decided we'd hit the movie theater (being minors and all).
The whole state discussion (see the earlier post) has had me hooked on the idea and all week I've been wired. I think I only had two mellow days so far since TJ introduced the idea of 100% to me, that coupled with my own theory of PMA created this: 100% PMA strolling into the theater like my fucking dad owned it or some shit. Alright no game inside, we got tickets and headed outdoors to search.
My wing is still have AA problems so the two set we walk by, some HB7 with platinum blond hair and HB8 a cute brunette I tell him to just stroll with me, I'll handle it.
Shadow5a: Hey, do you think this guy looks 18?
HBPlatinum: Uh...fghjkuivhji
Shadow5a: Because we just went in to get tickets and he got ID'd
HBPlatinum: Oh, what movie are you guy's going to see? I took this as an IOI
At this point HBPlatinum was like..staring at me, and I just realized why.
HBPlatinum: Don't I know you from somewhere?
Shadow5a: Oh Ya....puts on a enlightened look...Your Taylor right?
HBPlatinum: Ya, your Peter right?
skip forward about 5 minutes, the girls didn't have money to get in or something so we told them that our friends were sneaking in and they could come with.
HBCuteBrunette: So are we going to your movie?
Shadow5a: Yeah definitely, go with my friends and we'll open the doors for you
This is were me and my wing screwed up. They went into the theater before us and ruined our plans to isolate them. The coolest thing ever happened though, the friends we snuck in to the show thought that this whole sarging thing was bullshit. As I sat down Mike leaned over and whispered "Hey did you guys just pick those girls up?" I just said "Ya" and leaned back in my seat with the biggest grin on my face possible.
Anyways, when the movie was over we just walked out, figuring they would follow. Problem was they did but they just said "bye" and walked straight off.
I was kinda pissed because I was ready to walk up to HBCuteBrunette and close her but they just took off.
A day later I get two messages on Nexopia from these girls. That's where I managed to set up a day 2 and #close HBCuteBrunette.
This is how I closed:
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To: No.Substance
From: .briannaa
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:16 am
Subject: Re (38): No Subject
haha
come on,
YOUR SHY
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To: .briannaa
From: No.Substance
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:22 am
Subject: Re (39): No Subject
I am not!
I'll tell you in person tommorow at starbucks
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To: No.Substance
From: .briannaa
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:23 am
Subject: Re (40): No Subject
o rly?
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To: .briannaa
From: No.Substance
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:24 am
Subject: Re (41): No Subject
ya better give me your number just in case
you got texting?
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To: No.Substance
From: .briannaa
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:25 am
Subject: Re (42): No Subject
no, i don't :imslow:
*gives number* of course i do.
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To: .briannaa
From: No.Substance
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:29 am
Subject: Re (43): No Subject
oh you little smart ass ahaha
you and my sister would get along just fine
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I also recorded the whole series of messages. I would like some critique on my messaging game for those who have time but it's fairly long so I'll stick it in a comment on this post.
And that's how I got my first number close after learning about pickup. I have a feeling she's going to flake because it's the day after but If I get the Day 2 I'll FR it and grab some pictures too!
Thanks guys I'm out,
Shadow5a
So me and my wing were feeling the urge to go out and sarge hardcore, our plans to go to a party earlier was ruined so we decided we'd hit the movie theater (being minors and all).
The whole state discussion (see the earlier post) has had me hooked on the idea and all week I've been wired. I think I only had two mellow days so far since TJ introduced the idea of 100% to me, that coupled with my own theory of PMA created this: 100% PMA strolling into the theater like my fucking dad owned it or some shit. Alright no game inside, we got tickets and headed outdoors to search.
My wing is still have AA problems so the two set we walk by, some HB7 with platinum blond hair and HB8 a cute brunette I tell him to just stroll with me, I'll handle it.
Shadow5a: Hey, do you think this guy looks 18?
HBPlatinum: Uh...fghjkuivhji
Shadow5a: Because we just went in to get tickets and he got ID'd
HBPlatinum: Oh, what movie are you guy's going to see? I took this as an IOI
At this point HBPlatinum was like..staring at me, and I just realized why.
HBPlatinum: Don't I know you from somewhere?
Shadow5a: Oh Ya....puts on a enlightened look...Your Taylor right?
HBPlatinum: Ya, your Peter right?
skip forward about 5 minutes, the girls didn't have money to get in or something so we told them that our friends were sneaking in and they could come with.
HBCuteBrunette: So are we going to your movie?
Shadow5a: Yeah definitely, go with my friends and we'll open the doors for you
This is were me and my wing screwed up. They went into the theater before us and ruined our plans to isolate them. The coolest thing ever happened though, the friends we snuck in to the show thought that this whole sarging thing was bullshit. As I sat down Mike leaned over and whispered "Hey did you guys just pick those girls up?" I just said "Ya" and leaned back in my seat with the biggest grin on my face possible.
Anyways, when the movie was over we just walked out, figuring they would follow. Problem was they did but they just said "bye" and walked straight off.
I was kinda pissed because I was ready to walk up to HBCuteBrunette and close her but they just took off.
A day later I get two messages on Nexopia from these girls. That's where I managed to set up a day 2 and #close HBCuteBrunette.
This is how I closed:
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To: No.Substance
From: .briannaa
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:16 am
Subject: Re (38): No Subject
haha
come on,
YOUR SHY
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To: .briannaa
From: No.Substance
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:22 am
Subject: Re (39): No Subject
I am not!
I'll tell you in person tommorow at starbucks
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To: No.Substance
From: .briannaa
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:23 am
Subject: Re (40): No Subject
o rly?
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To: .briannaa
From: No.Substance
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:24 am
Subject: Re (41): No Subject
ya better give me your number just in case
you got texting?
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To: No.Substance
From: .briannaa
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:25 am
Subject: Re (42): No Subject
no, i don't :imslow:
*gives number* of course i do.
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To: .briannaa
From: No.Substance
Date: Thu May 22, 2008 2:29 am
Subject: Re (43): No Subject
oh you little smart ass ahaha
you and my sister would get along just fine
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I also recorded the whole series of messages. I would like some critique on my messaging game for those who have time but it's fairly long so I'll stick it in a comment on this post.
And that's how I got my first number close after learning about pickup. I have a feeling she's going to flake because it's the day after but If I get the Day 2 I'll FR it and grab some pictures too!
Thanks guys I'm out,
Shadow5a
Phone Backgrounds
I-Man: Damn, i was right about you! Your a brat AND your hella fun! I'll tell you what, I'll text you on Thursday before we go to ( aforementioned place) and let ya know when were going.
Notice i dont even ask for the number and hand her my phone. HB looks at phone for a second.
HB: Who is this?
I-man looks to see a half naked chick on the background of his phone and then I-Man displays a picture perfect "oh fuck" look all over his face. Body language falls apart.
I-Man: Its my baby sister of course, haha, geez.
HB: Eww, thats gross.
So yeah, I fucked that up pretty bad, lol. Everything prolly would have been ok if i had said that it is just some girl im kinda seeing or whatever. Oh well, unexpected shit happens sometimes. Anyways...
Ever since then, i have been thinking about what to put on the background of my phone. Lately I have been using a picture of my brothers baby. It builds a little comfort because they always ask about the baby and I can go into a routine.
I always hand my phone to the girls so they can put their number in so they always see my background. What do you guys put in your backgrounds? This is a good opportunity for us to demonstrate value, personality, comfort, or whatever we want them to see. So, what is the best thing to put in there?
Notice i dont even ask for the number and hand her my phone. HB looks at phone for a second.
HB: Who is this?
I-man looks to see a half naked chick on the background of his phone and then I-Man displays a picture perfect "oh fuck" look all over his face. Body language falls apart.
I-Man: Its my baby sister of course, haha, geez.
HB: Eww, thats gross.
So yeah, I fucked that up pretty bad, lol. Everything prolly would have been ok if i had said that it is just some girl im kinda seeing or whatever. Oh well, unexpected shit happens sometimes. Anyways...
Ever since then, i have been thinking about what to put on the background of my phone. Lately I have been using a picture of my brothers baby. It builds a little comfort because they always ask about the baby and I can go into a routine.
I always hand my phone to the girls so they can put their number in so they always see my background. What do you guys put in your backgrounds? This is a good opportunity for us to demonstrate value, personality, comfort, or whatever we want them to see. So, what is the best thing to put in there?
Sunday, May 18, 2008
FR: Return from Bermuda
Ah.
I'm tired, not sunburned, and sick. That means 2/3s of my successful vacation criteria has been met.
Anyway, I just recited my whole trip minute for minute to Golden Child and realized (in terms of sarging) nothing too earth-shattering happened. I got a few make outs. I broke up a 9 month relationship when one of those aforementioned make outs happened right in front of the girl's boyfriend. I worked on quick escalation and venue bouncing with great success. I almost pulled a girl onto the beach until her super annoying friend followed us and cockblocked me. I opened pretty much 100 percent of my sets except for an atrocious 2-set who screamed at me (scary!).
Hmmmmm...I guess if you're planning a vacation to Bermuda, here are my tips.
1.) All the guys look gangsta but are complete chodes who supplicate endlessly.
2.) PEACOCK! If you look at the pictures, you can see I dress completely incongruently to the environment every night. Sure I got a lot of shit from guys but I also had girls opening me since I stood out like a bright shiny object.
3.) Being from a cool place in the US (like NY) gives you instant social proof.
4.) No tourists go to Bermuda anymore (too expensive!) so it's all local girls.
5.) The local girls are all pretty cute (7s and 8s) but no standout bombshells.
6.) All the girls have a really cute Bermudian accent.
Now pictures starring TJ, Prada, Thoery, HB8StarryEyes, HB8.5StripperIOIs, HB7CockBlock, and unfortunately HB8.5 Skinny Blonde's picture didn't develop (I had my digital camera stolen so I had to buy one of those cheap disposable cameras...sucked). I'm not going to label these pictures or explain the significance of the names. Consider this a "Photo FR" with shitty photos.
Pax.
~TJ
I'm tired, not sunburned, and sick. That means 2/3s of my successful vacation criteria has been met.
Anyway, I just recited my whole trip minute for minute to Golden Child and realized (in terms of sarging) nothing too earth-shattering happened. I got a few make outs. I broke up a 9 month relationship when one of those aforementioned make outs happened right in front of the girl's boyfriend. I worked on quick escalation and venue bouncing with great success. I almost pulled a girl onto the beach until her super annoying friend followed us and cockblocked me. I opened pretty much 100 percent of my sets except for an atrocious 2-set who screamed at me (scary!).
Hmmmmm...I guess if you're planning a vacation to Bermuda, here are my tips.
1.) All the guys look gangsta but are complete chodes who supplicate endlessly.
2.) PEACOCK! If you look at the pictures, you can see I dress completely incongruently to the environment every night. Sure I got a lot of shit from guys but I also had girls opening me since I stood out like a bright shiny object.
3.) Being from a cool place in the US (like NY) gives you instant social proof.
4.) No tourists go to Bermuda anymore (too expensive!) so it's all local girls.
5.) The local girls are all pretty cute (7s and 8s) but no standout bombshells.
6.) All the girls have a really cute Bermudian accent.
Now pictures starring TJ, Prada, Thoery, HB8StarryEyes, HB8.5StripperIOIs, HB7CockBlock, and unfortunately HB8.5 Skinny Blonde's picture didn't develop (I had my digital camera stolen so I had to buy one of those cheap disposable cameras...sucked). I'm not going to label these pictures or explain the significance of the names. Consider this a "Photo FR" with shitty photos.
Pax.
~TJ
Labels:
Escalating,
Field Report,
HB Pictures,
Peacocking
Saturday, May 17, 2008
What's YOUR passion?
So guys, just something serious to ask, but what is your passion?
What is something that you can't live without that deals with ONLY you and the first thing that comes to mind for you?
Why is this your "passion"?
For example, my passion is music. Because with music, I can sing.
So, please list your "passion". I wanna have a feel from people here.
What is something that you can't live without that deals with ONLY you and the first thing that comes to mind for you?
Why is this your "passion"?
For example, my passion is music. Because with music, I can sing.
So, please list your "passion". I wanna have a feel from people here.
Postcard from Bermuda
Sup guys.
I'm on Prada's sister's computer writing this up real quick before going out on my last night on this beautiful island.
I'll write a whole FR of my stay here, but for now all I can say is this is truely an island of chodes. All these dudes look like hardcore gangstas (both the black and the white guys) but are complete LSE chodes.
The girls are all pretty hot but no standout 10s. Isolation and discretion is harder than it is in NYC since everyone knows each other and I'm not staying in a hotel.
But the "shinny object" theory is SO true. Very easy to get attraction and compliance with these girls.
Anyway, I'm glad to see FRs are still going up. Keep holding it down in the States while I'm gone and expect a FR and pictures when I return!
PAX!
~TJ
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Apocalypse Now, Summer Pickings
A lot has been going on lately and My Game is really coming along nicely. About a week ago we had Fader, a Mystery Method instructor stop by Pittsburgh cause he had a high paying client out here. So, for 200 bucks, (his hotel cost) he held a little half day Seminar for all the Pittsburgh PUA's.
This was the first time i met all of the Pittsburgh PUA's, and frankly, was not that impressed. I mean, i met like 10 guys at this meeting and only a few had high status social skills. They all seemed star struck because we had someone famous in our midst. It was fucking pathetic. And then when we went out that night with Fader... I was on my 3rd set which was going very well, and all the other guys just stood around Fader like it was still a classroom setting. Fader was awesome. A very Genuine guy.
So lets get to what this field report is really about. Apocalypse Now. One the new guys i met told me about this thing called Apocalypse, some RSD reference. Basically, when all the clubs and bars shut down for the night, there are mass amount of people standing outside, getting in fights, making out, waving down cabs, total craziness. So Apocalypse method takes advantage of this emotionally driven time span. Basically, the routine goes like this.
I-Man: Hey whats up
HB: blah
I-Man: what are you doing later
HB: blah
I-Man: cool, would you like to come home with me? (However using the subtle context and tonality of "what time is it".
HB: Hahahahah, no!
I-Man: We are so broken up missy. I want my Cd's back damnit!
I did this to a girl that was on the phone, she cracked up so bad she had to hang up the phone and talk to me. Fucking amazing right? Do this to enough girls and you will always find one that hooks. Guys, they are never going to say yes, but they laughed really hard like every time.
Here is my set that really hooked. HBRussian was in a group of 8's and i didnt really have a target, just kinda went in and worked it. I dont really remember what i opened with... but i called out this tall girl with a long silver locket of a heart. "That is the fakest Tiffanys Necklace i have ever seen" Apparently i came off as gay because i know what Tiffany's looks like. But im glad i called her out, this chick was giving me the worst shit tests in the world. So as i appropriately handled each shitest, I caught HBRussian looking at me. Thats when I used the Apocalypse routine.
I-Man: whats up, what you doin tonight, would you like to come home with me?
HBRussian: haha, Maybe if you werent gay!
I-Man: Oh damn everybody, she burned my closet! You are so cute... for being from another planet!
HBfakeTiffanys: We are leaving, bye!
I-Man: Holy shit...are you the cockblock of the group:
HBfriends: HAHAAhh, she sooo is.
I-Man: Awesome, i am the cockblock of my group, we can totally smell our own!
Faketiffanys was trying her damndest to pull HBRussian away from me, but after i said the cockblock thing, HBRussian didnt budge an inch. But what did she do? Called me gay again!!! I really gotta work on my voice control as well, haha lol.
Since FakeTiffany was trying to pull her south, i grabbed HBRussian and led the way. Once i realized she seriously thought i was gay, i went MORE caveman than i ever have in my life! no more than 20 steps later....
HBRussian: I hate it when guys tell me what to do.
I-Man gives the most gleaming NLP seductive eye gaze EVER and says
I-Man: Oh my god your feisty!! I love feisty girls!
I threw her up against a telephone pole, and bam! Makeout. Keep in mind, i didnt get a single IOI....except for the gay thing. After that we talked for 20 seconds and i went for the number close....had to be quick cause its a street pickup.
HBRussian: I have a husband
I-Man: Awesome!! I will allow him to make us breakfast in the morning! But i warn you, if the OJ is not fresh, im gonna kick his ass!!!
As she laughed hysterically I spun her around and then...bam another makeout. I went for the number close again. She was still resistant. At this point, i kinda lost my game. I just pressured her into it. Just do it, do it. Like Nike says...or something like that. Bad game. I finally got the # though, and she rejoined her group of 6 or so friends who witnessed the whole thing. haha. All in the span of 5 minutes. Apocalypse Now!!!!
Here is the txt game i initiated 5 minutes after she walked away. I had to keep her state pumped or i knew she would flake.
I-Man:Hey space alien. I am so gay your husband should jump in with us!
HBRussian: Yeah i wasnt serious. And I hope your not gay, your sexy
I-Man:Haha, control yourself woman! I fucking love woman that challenge me...
HBRussian: Yeah, i love men that arent intimidated by that. you should come see me
I-Man:Haha, Im not falling for that again! Dont like one night stands you sexual predator(had to work at 7am and it was 2:30am) I am more of a long term fucktoy ;) Well see how we mesh next few days
HBRussian:Haha!! I didnt mean tonight :( sorry not that kinda girl, I meant you should cum to ******* for me sometime.
I-Man:We will see...and we will see.
HBRussian:Umm...ok :( call me. Hope im worth making the trip
I-Man:Haha, im the worse texter in the world. And dont worry, i will
HBRussian: You gonna be like every other an make promises you dont keep?
I-Man:And im also responsible and have to work at 7am(this was around 4am) Yes im a total asshole. Whatever you do, dont pickup your phone when i call you tommorrow.
HBRussian: Ok ;)
Phone game with her was great. I use the MeHow phone game method. Always works. The D2 with HBRussian went great. We went Cologne shopping. Fucking great D2, cologne shopping. Went to dinner, i asked her if she was gonna eat her bread roll and she said no. So i took it, cut out a mouth, and made it talk to her. Small tip, making stupid objects talk is always funny. After dinner we went driving...
I-Man: Is that a car dealership?
HBRussian: I think....
Then you hear my tires screech as i pull in. I Ended up making out with her on the hood of a car, and stole a golf cart to drive it around the dealership. We got out and left before anyone said anything...No F-close yet with this girl, but she called me the other night. I hardly ever get flakes anymore.
Getting Txtual with HBX-Files
So my HB9, which is HBXfiles, pickup is going very well. We had sex 3 times now and im still holding the frame that we are not dating. Before i F-closed her....One sunday morning she texts me threatening to quit her job and just bitching in general. By the way, this girl loves the Blueman Group, NickelBack, and the X-Files.
HBX-files: Bitch bitch bitch....
I-Man: You know what....Im gonna come over wednesday, completely painted in Blue, throw on your fav Nickel Back CD, and im gonna whisper top Secret Government secrets in your ear. So sexy, i know ;)
HBX-files: Actually, that is sexy
At this point, i kept getting more sexual over txt. I cant remember how the rest went, but i know i ended with, "I hope you have blue sheets"
Inner Game Note on phone game:
When im talking to chicks on the phone for the first time, i always have the urge to ask them what they though about me when we first met. Or i wanna ask them if they want me to call them another time. I want to ask them if they had a good time talking to me. This is the stupid AFC talking. Never ask these question. The men these chicks want to be with dont ask these questions because high value guys know that the girls like them, want them, have a good time with them. Asking these questions is admitting your weakness.
Another random night...Before i go on, ugly chicks do have hot friends, so sometimes it is ok to open UGS with hopes of meeting their lovely counter parts.
There was a HB6 and HB7 sitting next to the bathroom at the end of the bar. Looking around the room, i only saw a handful of other opportunities so I just went for it. Why not right? Blahblahblah, the set was going great. And then.... their HB9 friend got out of the bathroom while i had their BT spiked. (YES!!!) And wow, this HB9 shit tested me more than any other girl ever. When i ran out of anti shit test stuff, i just ignored her. It didnt even work so I ejected. Her friends came back later to apologize and try to touch me. Hands off ugs!!
Final note.
Sorry for the crazy long post, i really should have broken this up. But life is fucking good lately. I broke up with my LDR and have the whole summer free. I already have 5 beautiful girls ive been seing. Have pics of 3, these are the sure things :) I am not that which i have been. By the way, HBFridays picked ME up when i was an AFC and now she is back in town, I really want her again. :)
HBXfiles
HBRusian HBFridays
This was the first time i met all of the Pittsburgh PUA's, and frankly, was not that impressed. I mean, i met like 10 guys at this meeting and only a few had high status social skills. They all seemed star struck because we had someone famous in our midst. It was fucking pathetic. And then when we went out that night with Fader... I was on my 3rd set which was going very well, and all the other guys just stood around Fader like it was still a classroom setting. Fader was awesome. A very Genuine guy.
So lets get to what this field report is really about. Apocalypse Now. One the new guys i met told me about this thing called Apocalypse, some RSD reference. Basically, when all the clubs and bars shut down for the night, there are mass amount of people standing outside, getting in fights, making out, waving down cabs, total craziness. So Apocalypse method takes advantage of this emotionally driven time span. Basically, the routine goes like this.
I-Man: Hey whats up
HB: blah
I-Man: what are you doing later
HB: blah
I-Man: cool, would you like to come home with me? (However using the subtle context and tonality of "what time is it".
HB: Hahahahah, no!
I-Man: We are so broken up missy. I want my Cd's back damnit!
I did this to a girl that was on the phone, she cracked up so bad she had to hang up the phone and talk to me. Fucking amazing right? Do this to enough girls and you will always find one that hooks. Guys, they are never going to say yes, but they laughed really hard like every time.
Here is my set that really hooked. HBRussian was in a group of 8's and i didnt really have a target, just kinda went in and worked it. I dont really remember what i opened with... but i called out this tall girl with a long silver locket of a heart. "That is the fakest Tiffanys Necklace i have ever seen" Apparently i came off as gay because i know what Tiffany's looks like. But im glad i called her out, this chick was giving me the worst shit tests in the world. So as i appropriately handled each shitest, I caught HBRussian looking at me. Thats when I used the Apocalypse routine.
I-Man: whats up, what you doin tonight, would you like to come home with me?
HBRussian: haha, Maybe if you werent gay!
I-Man: Oh damn everybody, she burned my closet! You are so cute... for being from another planet!
HBfakeTiffanys: We are leaving, bye!
I-Man: Holy shit...are you the cockblock of the group:
HBfriends: HAHAAhh, she sooo is.
I-Man: Awesome, i am the cockblock of my group, we can totally smell our own!
Faketiffanys was trying her damndest to pull HBRussian away from me, but after i said the cockblock thing, HBRussian didnt budge an inch. But what did she do? Called me gay again!!! I really gotta work on my voice control as well, haha lol.
Since FakeTiffany was trying to pull her south, i grabbed HBRussian and led the way. Once i realized she seriously thought i was gay, i went MORE caveman than i ever have in my life! no more than 20 steps later....
HBRussian: I hate it when guys tell me what to do.
I-Man gives the most gleaming NLP seductive eye gaze EVER and says
I-Man: Oh my god your feisty!! I love feisty girls!
I threw her up against a telephone pole, and bam! Makeout. Keep in mind, i didnt get a single IOI....except for the gay thing. After that we talked for 20 seconds and i went for the number close....had to be quick cause its a street pickup.
HBRussian: I have a husband
I-Man: Awesome!! I will allow him to make us breakfast in the morning! But i warn you, if the OJ is not fresh, im gonna kick his ass!!!
As she laughed hysterically I spun her around and then...bam another makeout. I went for the number close again. She was still resistant. At this point, i kinda lost my game. I just pressured her into it. Just do it, do it. Like Nike says...or something like that. Bad game. I finally got the # though, and she rejoined her group of 6 or so friends who witnessed the whole thing. haha. All in the span of 5 minutes. Apocalypse Now!!!!
Here is the txt game i initiated 5 minutes after she walked away. I had to keep her state pumped or i knew she would flake.
I-Man:Hey space alien. I am so gay your husband should jump in with us!
HBRussian: Yeah i wasnt serious. And I hope your not gay, your sexy
I-Man:Haha, control yourself woman! I fucking love woman that challenge me...
HBRussian: Yeah, i love men that arent intimidated by that. you should come see me
I-Man:Haha, Im not falling for that again! Dont like one night stands you sexual predator(had to work at 7am and it was 2:30am) I am more of a long term fucktoy ;) Well see how we mesh next few days
HBRussian:Haha!! I didnt mean tonight :( sorry not that kinda girl, I meant you should cum to ******* for me sometime.
I-Man:We will see...and we will see.
HBRussian:Umm...ok :( call me. Hope im worth making the trip
I-Man:Haha, im the worse texter in the world. And dont worry, i will
HBRussian: You gonna be like every other an make promises you dont keep?
I-Man:And im also responsible and have to work at 7am(this was around 4am) Yes im a total asshole. Whatever you do, dont pickup your phone when i call you tommorrow.
HBRussian: Ok ;)
Phone game with her was great. I use the MeHow phone game method. Always works. The D2 with HBRussian went great. We went Cologne shopping. Fucking great D2, cologne shopping. Went to dinner, i asked her if she was gonna eat her bread roll and she said no. So i took it, cut out a mouth, and made it talk to her. Small tip, making stupid objects talk is always funny. After dinner we went driving...
I-Man: Is that a car dealership?
HBRussian: I think....
Then you hear my tires screech as i pull in. I Ended up making out with her on the hood of a car, and stole a golf cart to drive it around the dealership. We got out and left before anyone said anything...No F-close yet with this girl, but she called me the other night. I hardly ever get flakes anymore.
Getting Txtual with HBX-Files
So my HB9, which is HBXfiles, pickup is going very well. We had sex 3 times now and im still holding the frame that we are not dating. Before i F-closed her....One sunday morning she texts me threatening to quit her job and just bitching in general. By the way, this girl loves the Blueman Group, NickelBack, and the X-Files.
HBX-files: Bitch bitch bitch....
I-Man: You know what....Im gonna come over wednesday, completely painted in Blue, throw on your fav Nickel Back CD, and im gonna whisper top Secret Government secrets in your ear. So sexy, i know ;)
HBX-files: Actually, that is sexy
At this point, i kept getting more sexual over txt. I cant remember how the rest went, but i know i ended with, "I hope you have blue sheets"
Inner Game Note on phone game:
When im talking to chicks on the phone for the first time, i always have the urge to ask them what they though about me when we first met. Or i wanna ask them if they want me to call them another time. I want to ask them if they had a good time talking to me. This is the stupid AFC talking. Never ask these question. The men these chicks want to be with dont ask these questions because high value guys know that the girls like them, want them, have a good time with them. Asking these questions is admitting your weakness.
Another random night...Before i go on, ugly chicks do have hot friends, so sometimes it is ok to open UGS with hopes of meeting their lovely counter parts.
There was a HB6 and HB7 sitting next to the bathroom at the end of the bar. Looking around the room, i only saw a handful of other opportunities so I just went for it. Why not right? Blahblahblah, the set was going great. And then.... their HB9 friend got out of the bathroom while i had their BT spiked. (YES!!!) And wow, this HB9 shit tested me more than any other girl ever. When i ran out of anti shit test stuff, i just ignored her. It didnt even work so I ejected. Her friends came back later to apologize and try to touch me. Hands off ugs!!
Final note.
Sorry for the crazy long post, i really should have broken this up. But life is fucking good lately. I broke up with my LDR and have the whole summer free. I already have 5 beautiful girls ive been seing. Have pics of 3, these are the sure things :) I am not that which i have been. By the way, HBFridays picked ME up when i was an AFC and now she is back in town, I really want her again. :)
“I am not now That which I have been.” ~ Lord Byron, Child Harold (1812)
HBXfiles
HBRusian HBFridays
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Is it just me or...?
Hey guys. Well, this past weekend, I was at a friend's little sister's prom (waste of fuckin' time). It was a VERY strange week. Pretty much like a week of weirdness mixed in with drugs. I'll speak about it. lacking. Strange, but that's not all. This past weekend, I lost my fuckin' wallet. I had pictures, condoms, credit cards, and store cards. I also had my driver's license, health care info, school ID, gym card, and money in there. Ah fuck! Someone probably picked it up because it's not anywhere to be found!
But before this, on Sunday, I went with my family to eat out at Minado for Mother's Day. Minado is a very rich target place to go to. Seen targets with their families, but I lock out and didn't game any chick. I felt like a chode for the second time in my life. Worst feeling EVER. I grab my plate full of Japanese dishes and grub on it while the hottest chicks look at me eat. Can't I just eat without anyone staring at me? It's a bad time, since I am tr
So anyways, I have been lacking in my game. REALLYying to spend quality time with my family. Anyways, there was this mother. HOT ass mother. Probably Latina or white, but she was a mom. A young one at the very least to say. She was around 5'6, thin build, brunette, and was one of those chicks where you would see in a music video. One of the really hot chicks. I see her gazing at me and I'm like, "Don't do it, Gerry. She's with her family and man." I look at her confidently and then away, but I keep repeating the cycle. My inner self wanted me to talk to her, but it's not worth it for a day like this. Her man then stares at me hard. He's not mad, but I have a feeling that he knew who I was.
So, while waiting in line, there's so many people. I see the stereo-typical Asian woman with a white guy and pretty much bust out laughing out loud in the place because I was thinking, "Damn, I should of brought my white girl to show off." Everyone's looking at me and I know what they're thinking. "What the fuck is his problem?" I let the feelings cease and grab my food to eat. After I was done eating FOUR big ass food-filled plates, I had to get ice cream. I got the green tea ice cream.
So, I got the ice cream and ate it. My sister-in-law points to the window behind me and asks me, "What's that?" I turn around. I turn back around and I see my sister-in-law laughing. I then take a scoop of my green tea ice cream. I put the scoop of it in my mouth. Suddenly, the taste of a spoonful wasabi was in my mouth. It literally took me over ten seconds to figure it out. Hardy har har, I swallow the fuckin' spoonful of wasabi. Tasted like shit. Here's a picture of the green tea ice cream laced with wasabi:
I'm now pissed. I just tell myself to get over it and my sister-in-law apologizes and gets me the red bean ice cream. I eat that all. We all then leave and we paid $157.00 total. Wasn't bad at all. Left the restaurant and went home. My wallet then was forever lost.
But before this, on my friend's sister's prom night, my phone breaks. Like, WTF. I now have an unlocked rare burgundy colored Motorola RIZR Z3 that I paid fuckin' $589.00 for, but I found out that it's only $30.00 at T-Mobile. FUCK! Assholes! After this, I tried to schedule an appointment to get my hair cut at D's Barbershop. No one answers. I had to look good for this event if I wanted the teachers. But it didn't matter. Stupid ass Friday.
This prom night was literally one of the worst nights I've ever had. See more about it @ http://therealhengman.blogspot.com. Ever since, I've been pretty stressed out about how my luck's going, but that's stupid because I don't even believe in luck. Shit. I also then hear that I have to work out a contract with Jive or Epic Records, by one point, I was signed to Epic and they then moved me to the bigger Sony BMG. WTF. I'm now trying get a meet up with Akon and his manager so I could get signed with them, since my genre of performing is really close to Colby O Donis. A few cats from the community already heard my songs, so yeah. If anyone wants it, just IM me at GHeng68 on AIM or Hengman@live.com on MSN. I'll be glad to send it out. I already got a few requests on the radio.
Anyways, I'm out. This week shall be good for me.
Make money, get girls, and fuck crazy,
-Hengman!
But before this, on Sunday, I went with my family to eat out at Minado for Mother's Day. Minado is a very rich target place to go to. Seen targets with their families, but I lock out and didn't game any chick. I felt like a chode for the second time in my life. Worst feeling EVER. I grab my plate full of Japanese dishes and grub on it while the hottest chicks look at me eat. Can't I just eat without anyone staring at me? It's a bad time, since I am tr
So anyways, I have been lacking in my game. REALLYying to spend quality time with my family. Anyways, there was this mother. HOT ass mother. Probably Latina or white, but she was a mom. A young one at the very least to say. She was around 5'6, thin build, brunette, and was one of those chicks where you would see in a music video. One of the really hot chicks. I see her gazing at me and I'm like, "Don't do it, Gerry. She's with her family and man." I look at her confidently and then away, but I keep repeating the cycle. My inner self wanted me to talk to her, but it's not worth it for a day like this. Her man then stares at me hard. He's not mad, but I have a feeling that he knew who I was.
So, while waiting in line, there's so many people. I see the stereo-typical Asian woman with a white guy and pretty much bust out laughing out loud in the place because I was thinking, "Damn, I should of brought my white girl to show off." Everyone's looking at me and I know what they're thinking. "What the fuck is his problem?" I let the feelings cease and grab my food to eat. After I was done eating FOUR big ass food-filled plates, I had to get ice cream. I got the green tea ice cream.
So, I got the ice cream and ate it. My sister-in-law points to the window behind me and asks me, "What's that?" I turn around. I turn back around and I see my sister-in-law laughing. I then take a scoop of my green tea ice cream. I put the scoop of it in my mouth. Suddenly, the taste of a spoonful wasabi was in my mouth. It literally took me over ten seconds to figure it out. Hardy har har, I swallow the fuckin' spoonful of wasabi. Tasted like shit. Here's a picture of the green tea ice cream laced with wasabi:
I'm now pissed. I just tell myself to get over it and my sister-in-law apologizes and gets me the red bean ice cream. I eat that all. We all then leave and we paid $157.00 total. Wasn't bad at all. Left the restaurant and went home. My wallet then was forever lost.
But before this, on my friend's sister's prom night, my phone breaks. Like, WTF. I now have an unlocked rare burgundy colored Motorola RIZR Z3 that I paid fuckin' $589.00 for, but I found out that it's only $30.00 at T-Mobile. FUCK! Assholes! After this, I tried to schedule an appointment to get my hair cut at D's Barbershop. No one answers. I had to look good for this event if I wanted the teachers. But it didn't matter. Stupid ass Friday.
This prom night was literally one of the worst nights I've ever had. See more about it @ http://therealhengman.blogspot.com. Ever since, I've been pretty stressed out about how my luck's going, but that's stupid because I don't even believe in luck. Shit. I also then hear that I have to work out a contract with Jive or Epic Records, by one point, I was signed to Epic and they then moved me to the bigger Sony BMG. WTF. I'm now trying get a meet up with Akon and his manager so I could get signed with them, since my genre of performing is really close to Colby O Donis. A few cats from the community already heard my songs, so yeah. If anyone wants it, just IM me at GHeng68 on AIM or Hengman@live.com on MSN. I'll be glad to send it out. I already got a few requests on the radio.
Anyways, I'm out. This week shall be good for me.
Make money, get girls, and fuck crazy,
-Hengman!
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Introduction
What up -
First of all, thanks TJ for inviting me in. I've been reading a whole bunch of stuff on here so I figured I should introduce myself rather than be an anonymous reader.
Brief bio:
I'm from the NYCSarge forum which is how I know of TJ. Have known about the community for about 2 years(from 'the game') though just recently I've been reading up/watching/ listening & thus trying to implement in the field.
I have enjoyed pretty much everything TJ has posted so I am very appreciative that he let me in on the blog....especially after we started off on the wrong foot on the NYCSarge forum, lol. I have also had the pleasure of meeting him at the newbie sarge, which I think he mentioned on here, though I am really pissed that i didn't get to open any sets/wing him or really see him in action though I hear he did his thing that night.
Unfortunately, I have(and still kind of do) had the worst case of one-itis/AFC-ness. I mean, I got dumped hard and straight up, it hurts. I am currently trying to get out of that mentality and trying to improve my inner game but it's gonna be a long, hard road. To be honest though, I know in the long run it's gonna be the best thing that ever happened to me. I have been doing things and seeing things in myself that I never would've had I not gotten dumped/found the community. I have taken some steps in the right direction and have seen some improvements just since I got into this so I know there's a light at the end of the tunnel...cold approaches, improved confidence, a few # closes(very high flake out rate though), better BL/eye contact/vocal tonality. Obviously there is an abundance of things I still need to work on but here's to getting out there and trying.
Hopefully, I will be able to post some good FR's for this group. Seems like a great bunch of guys
Scott (Blizz)
Monday, May 12, 2008
Champ Manifesto
After reading Tylers "Chode Manifesto", I decided to change all the points into affirmations. I'm going to print this out and read it before going to bed...
Hi there. I am a CHAMP.
I go for location changes within the venue with every girl I approach because I know it's always going amazing.
I try to extract every girl that I approach out of the venue because I know it's always going great.
I kiss and initiate kino with every girl I approach because I know it's always going great.
...I try these things all the time and the girls say 'yes'.. So I figure they always want it, expect, and are glad I'm escalating...it's like second nature to me and I do it reflexly.
Initiating kino and kissing are natural and something I do immediately because it just feels right.
I go for numbers with every girl I approach because my approaches are always solid.
I get an average of 15 to 30 numbers a week like a normal guy as a result.
I always know what to do with a girl on a day2 even if I'm trying new venues or something I haven't "field tested".
I have an exact plan of where I would extract a girl to when she agrees to leave the club with me (Ritz Diner, Baker's Street Pub, home). I say "There's the best diner in the history of diners, I'm hungry. Let's go and order grilled cheeses." I know exactly what I should push for.
I call and follow up HARD with every girl whose number I get, and refuse to go out until I have called and left messages with every number on my list. I won't go out and gather more numbers until I call all the numbers on my list and view going out as a reward for having called all my numbers.
I always follow up on a girl when she doesn't call back first time.
I always follow up on a girl if she doesn't agree to a second meet the first time.
I use the girls who are flaking me as a chance to practice my conversational skills when they pickup the phone. I'm a great conversationalist on the phone because of it.
I realize most girls I approach will give me their number regardless of if it went well or not, so I always try.
I try to isolate every girl I go on day 2s with.
I have a plan of how to get a girl isolated (bring groceries back to my apartment), and my apartment has plenty of reasons to go back there.
I carry condoms with me when I go out because it's my reality that I get laid.
I understand what a cool guy looks like, because I walk around in with observational curiosity all day and look at all the cool people around me and study what makes them cool.
I can learn from all the "normal" people I'm seeing all the time because I know what a naturally compelling personality looks like.
I identify with cool people, and connect with them because they're real like me.
I view every interaction as a chance to give value to people. When I read posts, I compliment the details that are valid and focus on the positive. When I talk to bouncers, I joke around with them and think about how I'm making them feel as I talk to them. And when I see PUAs with their girls I'm happy to see guys making this stuff work. I simply view interactions as a way to make people feel good or to express creativity because I have unlimited value to give.
I like to focus on the positive things because I view myself as having unlimited value to offer. When I read the internet I love to write positive posts that encourage people.
I am inspired by paragraphs like the one above, to remind myself that my validation comes from my internal state. I am fully convinced that my "lover" personality is justified and that the world is an awesome place and good times are everywhere. The world inspires me because I am aligned with positive energy. I always find the positive, and I'm open to learning because seeing things as they are ensures I walk a higher path and allows me greater potential for growth.
I go out to have fun and because of that I'm in a playful state the entire time I'm out.
I love having non-logical conversations, because it allows me to get in touch with my emotional state and live in the moment. When I hang around with community guys, I like to pump their state, as well as my own, because we're all here to have fun. When I meet other community guys I prefer not to talk about GAME because I'd rather relate to them on non-logical topics because those are more fun.
I am connected to reality, so I understand what game looks like. When I see it, I admire and let it inspire me.
I also love to try new things, like keeping track of my eye contact and voice projection and deliberate use of humour and good energy in ALL my interactions. I try to break out of my "chode trance" as much as possible because I view ALL interactions as worthy to use good social skills in.
There is no magic pill and I appreciate anyone who is willing to help me grow as a person.
Hi there. I am a CHAMP.
I go for location changes within the venue with every girl I approach because I know it's always going amazing.
I try to extract every girl that I approach out of the venue because I know it's always going great.
I kiss and initiate kino with every girl I approach because I know it's always going great.
...I try these things all the time and the girls say 'yes'.. So I figure they always want it, expect, and are glad I'm escalating...it's like second nature to me and I do it reflexly.
Initiating kino and kissing are natural and something I do immediately because it just feels right.
I go for numbers with every girl I approach because my approaches are always solid.
I get an average of 15 to 30 numbers a week like a normal guy as a result.
I always know what to do with a girl on a day2 even if I'm trying new venues or something I haven't "field tested".
I have an exact plan of where I would extract a girl to when she agrees to leave the club with me (Ritz Diner, Baker's Street Pub, home). I say "There's the best diner in the history of diners, I'm hungry. Let's go and order grilled cheeses." I know exactly what I should push for.
I call and follow up HARD with every girl whose number I get, and refuse to go out until I have called and left messages with every number on my list. I won't go out and gather more numbers until I call all the numbers on my list and view going out as a reward for having called all my numbers.
I always follow up on a girl when she doesn't call back first time.
I always follow up on a girl if she doesn't agree to a second meet the first time.
I use the girls who are flaking me as a chance to practice my conversational skills when they pickup the phone. I'm a great conversationalist on the phone because of it.
I realize most girls I approach will give me their number regardless of if it went well or not, so I always try.
I try to isolate every girl I go on day 2s with.
I have a plan of how to get a girl isolated (bring groceries back to my apartment), and my apartment has plenty of reasons to go back there.
I carry condoms with me when I go out because it's my reality that I get laid.
I understand what a cool guy looks like, because I walk around in with observational curiosity all day and look at all the cool people around me and study what makes them cool.
I can learn from all the "normal" people I'm seeing all the time because I know what a naturally compelling personality looks like.
I identify with cool people, and connect with them because they're real like me.
I view every interaction as a chance to give value to people. When I read posts, I compliment the details that are valid and focus on the positive. When I talk to bouncers, I joke around with them and think about how I'm making them feel as I talk to them. And when I see PUAs with their girls I'm happy to see guys making this stuff work. I simply view interactions as a way to make people feel good or to express creativity because I have unlimited value to give.
I like to focus on the positive things because I view myself as having unlimited value to offer. When I read the internet I love to write positive posts that encourage people.
I am inspired by paragraphs like the one above, to remind myself that my validation comes from my internal state. I am fully convinced that my "lover" personality is justified and that the world is an awesome place and good times are everywhere. The world inspires me because I am aligned with positive energy. I always find the positive, and I'm open to learning because seeing things as they are ensures I walk a higher path and allows me greater potential for growth.
I go out to have fun and because of that I'm in a playful state the entire time I'm out.
I love having non-logical conversations, because it allows me to get in touch with my emotional state and live in the moment. When I hang around with community guys, I like to pump their state, as well as my own, because we're all here to have fun. When I meet other community guys I prefer not to talk about GAME because I'd rather relate to them on non-logical topics because those are more fun.
I am connected to reality, so I understand what game looks like. When I see it, I admire and let it inspire me.
I also love to try new things, like keeping track of my eye contact and voice projection and deliberate use of humour and good energy in ALL my interactions. I try to break out of my "chode trance" as much as possible because I view ALL interactions as worthy to use good social skills in.
There is no magic pill and I appreciate anyone who is willing to help me grow as a person.
It's All About State
Alright so yesterday was Saturday, and therefore for me...sarge day. This is simply because it's the busiest place for day game in the city during the week and my city is really dry for gaming grounds during the week. This is not so much a FR, more like a progress report.
So first out, I am getting ecstatic about my game and about the whole game and general. I can actually see myself improving and I absolutely love it. I'm actually finding it hard to concentrate during class right now because I'm constantly thinking about some new way to improve my DHV's or reliving a particularly good set. This is actually a major problem seeing that I'm on the road to finals =P. So anyways back to the mall.
Starting out I felt extremely low. Getting there I was feeling kind of tired and shitty but still really wanted to sarge so I forced us into some sets (my wing has a hard time getting over AA so normally I'm opening). For some reason though we could just not hook any sets. And even though I noticed some minor flaws in opening (body language, tone etc.) but I still didn't understand what was going on. I tried out the dog is gay opener and that fell flat too. We tried to go into some chick stores but it was extremely awkward (even though it was mothers day the next day). After approaching probably 4-5 sets we said fuck this and took a break at the food court. We stopped and payed five dollars for some joke ass slush things, sucked them dry and got back.
This is where it started to turn around.
As we walked by a spa I stopped my wing and told him the plan to sarge the HB9 receptionist. He told me these exact words:
"Dude fuck this awkward bullshit, were gonna walk in there like we fucking own the place."
And that's exactly what we did and HBReceptionist opened right up. I really got no time to run game before she noticed my wings Mohawk and went crazy but it still put me in a great mood. And after that every set I opened hooked, one shoe store we walked into I was totally getting obstacled by a big jewish man who kept talking about shoes as I tried to game the sales girl but she still responded very positively. Now the next set is what set me on fire. There was a 3 set of girls sitting on a stage right ahead of us, a Hb7 an Hb8 and an Ug. My wing whispered to me "Let's try the new opener." This is essentially how it went down:
Shadow5a: Hey, were here hittin' on chicks, what's up?
Now this was really just for the joke I was half expecting to get my ass kicked.
Hb7 and Hb8 look at each other and giggle Ug doesn't respond
Easiest set to hook all day, with the stupidest opener I've ever heard. I ran game in that set so well I believe I could have made my first PUA #close but they were a bunch of band geeks from B.C. so I figured it was useless. This also brings me to my next topic, my first PUA sticking point, we'll go into that after.This made me realize, fuck openers and AA and all this worrying so much about A1 A2 and A3 stuff. My main priority from now on when sarging is getting into state. I never realized the full potential of state up until now because every set we opened when feeling great, hooked right on.
Ok so, sticking point. I am having a hard time going for a close. I'm sure its the same idea behind AA but I would like a little help on knowing when is the right time to go for the close, I think that would give me the confidence I need to just go for it. One more thing is...I'm often on a bus and I want to sarge a girl who is in a different location, should I just walk up to her or the set and open? typing it out it seems like a stupid question but is there a better way?
Anyways, summary: I love the game, I'm getting better and I got my first sticking point on closing (It feels almost like a coming of age thing actually).
Questions:
When is the appropriate time to close?
Techniques for sarging on a bus without losing PD?
Thanks guys, I'm out
-Shadow5a
So first out, I am getting ecstatic about my game and about the whole game and general. I can actually see myself improving and I absolutely love it. I'm actually finding it hard to concentrate during class right now because I'm constantly thinking about some new way to improve my DHV's or reliving a particularly good set. This is actually a major problem seeing that I'm on the road to finals =P. So anyways back to the mall.
Starting out I felt extremely low. Getting there I was feeling kind of tired and shitty but still really wanted to sarge so I forced us into some sets (my wing has a hard time getting over AA so normally I'm opening). For some reason though we could just not hook any sets. And even though I noticed some minor flaws in opening (body language, tone etc.) but I still didn't understand what was going on. I tried out the dog is gay opener and that fell flat too. We tried to go into some chick stores but it was extremely awkward (even though it was mothers day the next day). After approaching probably 4-5 sets we said fuck this and took a break at the food court. We stopped and payed five dollars for some joke ass slush things, sucked them dry and got back.
This is where it started to turn around.
As we walked by a spa I stopped my wing and told him the plan to sarge the HB9 receptionist. He told me these exact words:
"Dude fuck this awkward bullshit, were gonna walk in there like we fucking own the place."
And that's exactly what we did and HBReceptionist opened right up. I really got no time to run game before she noticed my wings Mohawk and went crazy but it still put me in a great mood. And after that every set I opened hooked, one shoe store we walked into I was totally getting obstacled by a big jewish man who kept talking about shoes as I tried to game the sales girl but she still responded very positively. Now the next set is what set me on fire. There was a 3 set of girls sitting on a stage right ahead of us, a Hb7 an Hb8 and an Ug. My wing whispered to me "Let's try the new opener." This is essentially how it went down:
Shadow5a: Hey, were here hittin' on chicks, what's up?
Now this was really just for the joke I was half expecting to get my ass kicked.
Hb7 and Hb8 look at each other and giggle Ug doesn't respond
Easiest set to hook all day, with the stupidest opener I've ever heard. I ran game in that set so well I believe I could have made my first PUA #close but they were a bunch of band geeks from B.C. so I figured it was useless. This also brings me to my next topic, my first PUA sticking point, we'll go into that after.This made me realize, fuck openers and AA and all this worrying so much about A1 A2 and A3 stuff. My main priority from now on when sarging is getting into state. I never realized the full potential of state up until now because every set we opened when feeling great, hooked right on.
Ok so, sticking point. I am having a hard time going for a close. I'm sure its the same idea behind AA but I would like a little help on knowing when is the right time to go for the close, I think that would give me the confidence I need to just go for it. One more thing is...I'm often on a bus and I want to sarge a girl who is in a different location, should I just walk up to her or the set and open? typing it out it seems like a stupid question but is there a better way?
Anyways, summary: I love the game, I'm getting better and I got my first sticking point on closing (It feels almost like a coming of age thing actually).
Questions:
When is the appropriate time to close?
Techniques for sarging on a bus without losing PD?
Thanks guys, I'm out
-Shadow5a
Friday, May 9, 2008
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
A spattering of random information
So my boss is out for the next few days leaving me plenty of time to post on this blog and get some reading done. Anyway, I have a head full of information I need to unload and will do so here, at my leisure...
First order of business: The D3 I went on last night.
So this girl is definitely hot (HB8.5). Actually, it's a long and complicated story none of you probably care to hear, but she's actually HB High School Flirt from Part II of my "PUA Autobiography". Suffice to say I had a checkered history with this girl, randomly ran into her at a bar near my apartment, and have been trying to close her since (with limited success). Anyway, she texts me yesterday to come out with her and her friends for Cinco de Mayo, but I don't want to show up all choded-out and alone. Ga'ash had an internet date and Golden Child's busy with law school finals, so I ended up inviting Casanova from NYC Sarge.
A few notes on Casanova: Ga'ash refers to him as Justin Timberlake and I think that's a pretty fair assessment. However, I'd add if Justin Timberlake was in the Russian Mafia. Cas is a somewhat short, stylish dresser who's been in the community 5 years and speaks with a Russian accent. His phone is full of numbers of every major guru (i.e. Jeffy, Craig from DYD, Badboy, etc.) along with hundreds of PUAs. His computer has over 100 Gigs of videos, ebooks, and audio seminars. He usually offers to do me favors like drive me places and asks me talk about game theory (something I never mind doing lol) and I think he records what I say (???). Anyway, I had plans to meet with him last night so I called him and said, "Cas, change of plans. We're going on a D2 instead."
Obviously he had no objection to this.
When Cas and I show up to the bar, the girls are getting hit on by some chode who looked like an overweight frat guy. Doing what I usually do to guys I don't know, I stepped in front of him, spoke over him, and greeted the girls (this is why I probably so many guys start shit with me haha). The guy immediately tried to "AMOG" me by putting his hands on my shoulder and saying, "Dude, we were having a conversation here."
I just looked at him like he was retarded and kept talking to the girls who were blowing the guy off at this point. The guy, realizing I know the girls, tried to switch his strategy (too late) by befriending me and goes, "Okay bro, high five!"
I half-heartedly high five him but don't even look in his direction as I continue to talk to the girls. Knowing I've now demolished the guys value (he's standing there the whole time with the puppy-dog face...I later found out he bought the girls 2 rounds of drinks so he didn't want to give up on his "investment" too soon) I feel I can leave the set to demonstrate non-neediness. So Cas and I start walking around the venue and end up sitting down and ordering some chicken wings and beer.
The girls come join us and I engage the 2 friends while ignoring my target (who's sitting next to me).
TJ: So who was the creepster you guys were talking to?
HBs: Ahhh, that guy was such a loserrrrrrrrrr!!
TJ: Yeah, HB High School Flirt really knows how to pick em. So what was his great pickup line??
HBs: OMG!!! He came up to us and said, "How many drinks would it take for a guy to buy you before you found him interesting." Before we could answer, he bought us a round of Coronas and said, "Well, let's start with 1." (Side note: I hope you're all cringing)
TJ: BWAHAHHAHAHAHA!!! Are you fucking kidding?!?!?!?! Holy shit, what a date rapist line! Why doesn't he just cut to the chase and tell you he's going to put roofies in your drinks...
HBs: BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA AHHHHHHHHHHH
TJ: Yeah, but you know what. Laugh it up, but girls are SUCH sexual predators. Cas and I were JUST talking about this...
Here's point number 1. Running routines with your wing is a sick, sick DHV. Since I know Cas knows ALL the community routines, I stacked into the TD Sexual Pred routine about dressing up in bitch boots and pulling guys out of the dive bar. Then I said, "Oh shit, Cas tell them about what you were saying about guys and girls having sex..." Which Cas was able to transition into the second part of the routine with the nerve endings. Aside spiking BT, it was a total DHV for both of us because it seemed we were reciting it more for our own entertainment than to "impress" the girls. Also, it allowed us to share the spotlight and isolate (since the two HBs wanted to debate Cas on his point and my target wanted to refute my point).
Since my sarging of HB High Flirt has been rocky, I knew I had to neg her hard. One of the best "negs" to use on girls is comment on their clothing. I'll list a few solid clothing negs I use:
For girls wearing black and white stripes say, "Wow, did you just break out of prison?" or "Oh cool shirt, you look like the Hamburgler."
For girls dressed in all black say, "Nice outfit, you look like stage crew." or "That color combination, or lack thereof, makes you look like an emo princess."
For any other type of clothing say something, "You look so European." (Doesn't make sense but they'll usually be like, "What? Huh? What does that mean?" and you say "You know EXACTLY what it means...") or simply, "That outfit is EVIL. How could you wear that?" (Repeat response for European outfit)
Again, these aren't INSULTS, they're simply playful comments. I used the "stage crew" line on HB High School Flirt and at first she started cracking up, but then she asked two or three times later, "Wait, but does it look bad?" (Which you don't respond to.) After she asked a few times though, I said, "Well, hmmmm..." then I pulled her neckline a little so her pink bra strap showed and said, "Aw pink. Look a glimmer of hope despite all this black." Showing: 1.) Openness to sexual escalation, 2.) Spike BT without choding out and being like, "No! It looks great!"
Okay, but that Day 3 ended up going nowhere (no chance to escalate in front of the friends) but Cas ended up #-closing her cuter friend who seemed into him. One thing of note, Cas recorded a movie of me gaming my target and one of her friends without me knowing it. Literally, he just put the camera on the table and started running a movie. Later in the night, I saw him showing it to Prof Steve and heard my voice coming from the camera. I was amazed to see myself gaming since I had no idea he had recorded. This was great because I got to see myself in set (without me trying to ham it up for the camera); however, I was shocked at how many mistakes I was making. I definitely seemed very hard-hard in the way I was kinoing both of the girls and the way I was using my routines. At points I was pleased with my BL and my roll offs but overall I think the videos will drastically help my game since I can see things I've never noticed I was doing.
Moving on, here's a great opener/routine:
PUA: Hey guys, do you think dogs can be gay?
Then make up some story about how your friend got a dog who compulsively humps other male dogs. Girls eat this shit up. In fact, I put this to great use with my pivot a few weeks back. So I have this VERY attractive pivot (HB9) who I'm half using as a pivot, half gaming (only made out with her but still...). While she knows I game other girls (and is into it), I don't want to divulge too much of what I'm doing to her for fear of coming off creepy. So here's a great way to bait your pivot into encouraging you to open:
TJ: So HB9 Pivot, we've been having this heated debate at work: Can dogs be gay?
HB9 Pivot: (Answers, whatever)
TJ: That is SUCH a typical girl answer. I'll bet if you asked 10 girls, 9 would you say the EXACT same thing. And the 1 who didn't probably is actually a man anyway.
HB Pivot: Hahahaha, yes/no/whatever.... You should ask a girl!
TJ: Hmmm okay, (turns to adjacent set) HEY GUYS! My girlfriend and I were just having this debate...
I was opening sets like butter using this method. It's such easy callback humor/set opening routine. Just use whatever happened in the set as evidence to support your case (which your pivot will be like, "Well, ask another girl") OR as an anomaly (which you say, "Let's get another opinion"). Boom, social proof.
Anyway, other things I want to point out were mentioned by Warlock in his Newbie Sarge FR. To bring you up to speed, Dave Love Pirate asked me to help out with this newbie sarge he set up. It was basically a night where the guys from the NYC Sarge forum were going to meet up and run sets. I was under the impression I was just going to critique these guys and didn't think I'd end up running any serious sets. I was also especially excited to meet these guys who call themselves The Legion of Superfreaks. If you guys get a free moment, read some of Warlock's LOSF FRs, they're awesome!
So, I show up to this thing and am shocked at the turnout. There were close to 30 guys!! Dave was in his glory as he lives for the community and helping newbs. After some bullshitting and ice-breaking, we head to what has come to be known as the "PUA Okay Corral" and run game. Warlock wrote up a very telling description so I won't reiterate what he wrote. But you should notice two things he pointed out:
1.) I have other people spot my sets for me
2.) I open as if I'm just wandering by and happen to notice HBs
Okay, so first point: I have other people spot my sets for me. This is a KEY KEY KEY part in opening. Usually I'll say to my wing, "Okay, spot a set and I'll open." This will make your AA non-existent and create an AWESOME spontaneous vibe. Why? Well, picture it:
My wing and I are talking as my back is facing the set I want to open. My wing says, "Okay, over your shoulder, there's a HOT mixed three set. Open!" Before I even look at them, I'm already turning my head and saying, "Hey guys!" This disarms any bitch shield or AMOGs because you're entering the set AS IF THEY'RE ANYONE. For all they know, you had no idea what they looked like or who they were. As you turn around, you deliver the rest of your opener, i.e.: "Real quick, do you guys think dogs can be gay?" Opening this way seems TRULY genuine and not try-hard at all. It really appears as if you're just talking to your friend and you're turning to the nearest strangers being social. If the set you want to approach is not adjacent to you, refer to my second point...
....I open as if I'm just walking and happen to notice HBs. This sort of opener works just like casually asking over your shoulder. I usually walk by, big smile on my face, then stop as if an after thought and say my opener. Again, with practice you'll seem as if you're a super high value guy living in his own reality who just likes to talk to people. These are KEY body language techniques that will open every set for you, regardless of what you use as your opener.
Finally, I want to report on a great tactic I use that incorporates my second point. Okay, so if you guys remember my FR/LR about HB9 Asian Model. This girl was smoking hot but was hanging out with a bitchy friend. Anyway, I don't want to rehash that story since you can just click on the link, but one set NO ONE saw me run at the newbie sarge was easily my best set.
So, I saw this smoking hot 4-set walk by (3 girls and 1 dude). Two girls in the set were blonde bombshell 10s. They looked like twins, one good and one evil. One was dressed in black, the other in white. They let the chode guy they were walking around with buy them a bottle of wine then sat at a table in almost the EXACT spot I picked up Asian Model. See, the problem with this position is it's out on balcony at a table in a corner. Opening means immediately throwing your IOI card on the table because there's NO REASON why anyone would walk to a corner to ask a random question on the sexuality of dogs. So the indirect opinion opener is completely out the question. However, not knowing the relationship of the guy to the girls, going direct is also out of the question. What to do, what to do? When I saw the HB Blonde 10 Dressed in Black get up, I knew what I had to do...
TJ: (Walks past HB10 Blonde In Block, looks over balcony at the NYC skyline) Hey dude, I'm not from around here. What part of Manhattan am I looking at?
HB10 Blonde in Black: Hey dude? Gentlemen don't call girls dudes.
TJ: Yeah, but it was such a cool Nickelodeon show.
HB10 Blonde in Black: HAHAHA, I remember that one.
TJ: But Salute Your Shorts was wayyyy better. I wanted to go to Camp Ontowana so bad. I remember the day I found out it was just a t.v. show, my dreams were crushed...
HB10 Blonde in Black: Hahahaha, yeah that was a good one, too.
TJ: So dude, what part of Manhattan am I looking at?
HB10 Blonde in Black: (Looks at TJ like 'you didn't just call me 'dude' again') That's the Lower East Side.
TJ: Cool, so get this...(stacks into something ridiculous)
(Once BT is spike and I've gotten several IOIs)
TJ: I can't believe you.
HB10 BIB: What?
TJ: No, I mean for a smart girl I can't believe you haven't figured it out yet.
HB10 BIB: Figured what out?
TJ: You can't tell from my accent...
HB10 BIB: I have no idea what you're talking about.
TJ: My accent is straight New York. I can't believe you actually believed me what I said I wasn't from here. I know that's the Lower East Side...
HB10 BIB: (Punches TJ's arm) Then why'd you come over here and ask???
TJ: (Smile) Well, you looked interesting with your little black turtle neck and classy glass of wine. I noticed you and I was like, 'I gotta find out if that girl's cool or she's just a poser.' But I couldn't just come over like all these schmucks (points over balcony) so I had to have a pretense. Even though you failed my gullibility test, you've racked up some cool points with me.
HB10 BIB: You shit! Hahahaha, I can't believe you!
Calibration is key.
PAX.
~TJ
First order of business: The D3 I went on last night.
So this girl is definitely hot (HB8.5). Actually, it's a long and complicated story none of you probably care to hear, but she's actually HB High School Flirt from Part II of my "PUA Autobiography". Suffice to say I had a checkered history with this girl, randomly ran into her at a bar near my apartment, and have been trying to close her since (with limited success). Anyway, she texts me yesterday to come out with her and her friends for Cinco de Mayo, but I don't want to show up all choded-out and alone. Ga'ash had an internet date and Golden Child's busy with law school finals, so I ended up inviting Casanova from NYC Sarge.
A few notes on Casanova: Ga'ash refers to him as Justin Timberlake and I think that's a pretty fair assessment. However, I'd add if Justin Timberlake was in the Russian Mafia. Cas is a somewhat short, stylish dresser who's been in the community 5 years and speaks with a Russian accent. His phone is full of numbers of every major guru (i.e. Jeffy, Craig from DYD, Badboy, etc.) along with hundreds of PUAs. His computer has over 100 Gigs of videos, ebooks, and audio seminars. He usually offers to do me favors like drive me places and asks me talk about game theory (something I never mind doing lol) and I think he records what I say (???). Anyway, I had plans to meet with him last night so I called him and said, "Cas, change of plans. We're going on a D2 instead."
Obviously he had no objection to this.
When Cas and I show up to the bar, the girls are getting hit on by some chode who looked like an overweight frat guy. Doing what I usually do to guys I don't know, I stepped in front of him, spoke over him, and greeted the girls (this is why I probably so many guys start shit with me haha). The guy immediately tried to "AMOG" me by putting his hands on my shoulder and saying, "Dude, we were having a conversation here."
I just looked at him like he was retarded and kept talking to the girls who were blowing the guy off at this point. The guy, realizing I know the girls, tried to switch his strategy (too late) by befriending me and goes, "Okay bro, high five!"
I half-heartedly high five him but don't even look in his direction as I continue to talk to the girls. Knowing I've now demolished the guys value (he's standing there the whole time with the puppy-dog face...I later found out he bought the girls 2 rounds of drinks so he didn't want to give up on his "investment" too soon) I feel I can leave the set to demonstrate non-neediness. So Cas and I start walking around the venue and end up sitting down and ordering some chicken wings and beer.
The girls come join us and I engage the 2 friends while ignoring my target (who's sitting next to me).
TJ: So who was the creepster you guys were talking to?
HBs: Ahhh, that guy was such a loserrrrrrrrrr!!
TJ: Yeah, HB High School Flirt really knows how to pick em. So what was his great pickup line??
HBs: OMG!!! He came up to us and said, "How many drinks would it take for a guy to buy you before you found him interesting." Before we could answer, he bought us a round of Coronas and said, "Well, let's start with 1." (Side note: I hope you're all cringing)
TJ: BWAHAHHAHAHAHA!!! Are you fucking kidding?!?!?!?! Holy shit, what a date rapist line! Why doesn't he just cut to the chase and tell you he's going to put roofies in your drinks...
HBs: BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA AHHHHHHHHHHH
TJ: Yeah, but you know what. Laugh it up, but girls are SUCH sexual predators. Cas and I were JUST talking about this...
Here's point number 1. Running routines with your wing is a sick, sick DHV. Since I know Cas knows ALL the community routines, I stacked into the TD Sexual Pred routine about dressing up in bitch boots and pulling guys out of the dive bar. Then I said, "Oh shit, Cas tell them about what you were saying about guys and girls having sex..." Which Cas was able to transition into the second part of the routine with the nerve endings. Aside spiking BT, it was a total DHV for both of us because it seemed we were reciting it more for our own entertainment than to "impress" the girls. Also, it allowed us to share the spotlight and isolate (since the two HBs wanted to debate Cas on his point and my target wanted to refute my point).
Since my sarging of HB High Flirt has been rocky, I knew I had to neg her hard. One of the best "negs" to use on girls is comment on their clothing. I'll list a few solid clothing negs I use:
For girls wearing black and white stripes say, "Wow, did you just break out of prison?" or "Oh cool shirt, you look like the Hamburgler."
For girls dressed in all black say, "Nice outfit, you look like stage crew." or "That color combination, or lack thereof, makes you look like an emo princess."
For any other type of clothing say something, "You look so European." (Doesn't make sense but they'll usually be like, "What? Huh? What does that mean?" and you say "You know EXACTLY what it means...") or simply, "That outfit is EVIL. How could you wear that?" (Repeat response for European outfit)
Again, these aren't INSULTS, they're simply playful comments. I used the "stage crew" line on HB High School Flirt and at first she started cracking up, but then she asked two or three times later, "Wait, but does it look bad?" (Which you don't respond to.) After she asked a few times though, I said, "Well, hmmmm..." then I pulled her neckline a little so her pink bra strap showed and said, "Aw pink. Look a glimmer of hope despite all this black." Showing: 1.) Openness to sexual escalation, 2.) Spike BT without choding out and being like, "No! It looks great!"
Okay, but that Day 3 ended up going nowhere (no chance to escalate in front of the friends) but Cas ended up #-closing her cuter friend who seemed into him. One thing of note, Cas recorded a movie of me gaming my target and one of her friends without me knowing it. Literally, he just put the camera on the table and started running a movie. Later in the night, I saw him showing it to Prof Steve and heard my voice coming from the camera. I was amazed to see myself gaming since I had no idea he had recorded. This was great because I got to see myself in set (without me trying to ham it up for the camera); however, I was shocked at how many mistakes I was making. I definitely seemed very hard-hard in the way I was kinoing both of the girls and the way I was using my routines. At points I was pleased with my BL and my roll offs but overall I think the videos will drastically help my game since I can see things I've never noticed I was doing.
Moving on, here's a great opener/routine:
PUA: Hey guys, do you think dogs can be gay?
Then make up some story about how your friend got a dog who compulsively humps other male dogs. Girls eat this shit up. In fact, I put this to great use with my pivot a few weeks back. So I have this VERY attractive pivot (HB9) who I'm half using as a pivot, half gaming (only made out with her but still...). While she knows I game other girls (and is into it), I don't want to divulge too much of what I'm doing to her for fear of coming off creepy. So here's a great way to bait your pivot into encouraging you to open:
TJ: So HB9 Pivot, we've been having this heated debate at work: Can dogs be gay?
HB9 Pivot: (Answers, whatever)
TJ: That is SUCH a typical girl answer. I'll bet if you asked 10 girls, 9 would you say the EXACT same thing. And the 1 who didn't probably is actually a man anyway.
HB Pivot: Hahahaha, yes/no/whatever.... You should ask a girl!
TJ: Hmmm okay, (turns to adjacent set) HEY GUYS! My girlfriend and I were just having this debate...
I was opening sets like butter using this method. It's such easy callback humor/set opening routine. Just use whatever happened in the set as evidence to support your case (which your pivot will be like, "Well, ask another girl") OR as an anomaly (which you say, "Let's get another opinion"). Boom, social proof.
Anyway, other things I want to point out were mentioned by Warlock in his Newbie Sarge FR. To bring you up to speed, Dave Love Pirate asked me to help out with this newbie sarge he set up. It was basically a night where the guys from the NYC Sarge forum were going to meet up and run sets. I was under the impression I was just going to critique these guys and didn't think I'd end up running any serious sets. I was also especially excited to meet these guys who call themselves The Legion of Superfreaks. If you guys get a free moment, read some of Warlock's LOSF FRs, they're awesome!
So, I show up to this thing and am shocked at the turnout. There were close to 30 guys!! Dave was in his glory as he lives for the community and helping newbs. After some bullshitting and ice-breaking, we head to what has come to be known as the "PUA Okay Corral" and run game. Warlock wrote up a very telling description so I won't reiterate what he wrote. But you should notice two things he pointed out:
1.) I have other people spot my sets for me
2.) I open as if I'm just wandering by and happen to notice HBs
Okay, so first point: I have other people spot my sets for me. This is a KEY KEY KEY part in opening. Usually I'll say to my wing, "Okay, spot a set and I'll open." This will make your AA non-existent and create an AWESOME spontaneous vibe. Why? Well, picture it:
My wing and I are talking as my back is facing the set I want to open. My wing says, "Okay, over your shoulder, there's a HOT mixed three set. Open!" Before I even look at them, I'm already turning my head and saying, "Hey guys!" This disarms any bitch shield or AMOGs because you're entering the set AS IF THEY'RE ANYONE. For all they know, you had no idea what they looked like or who they were. As you turn around, you deliver the rest of your opener, i.e.: "Real quick, do you guys think dogs can be gay?" Opening this way seems TRULY genuine and not try-hard at all. It really appears as if you're just talking to your friend and you're turning to the nearest strangers being social. If the set you want to approach is not adjacent to you, refer to my second point...
....I open as if I'm just walking and happen to notice HBs. This sort of opener works just like casually asking over your shoulder. I usually walk by, big smile on my face, then stop as if an after thought and say my opener. Again, with practice you'll seem as if you're a super high value guy living in his own reality who just likes to talk to people. These are KEY body language techniques that will open every set for you, regardless of what you use as your opener.
Finally, I want to report on a great tactic I use that incorporates my second point. Okay, so if you guys remember my FR/LR about HB9 Asian Model. This girl was smoking hot but was hanging out with a bitchy friend. Anyway, I don't want to rehash that story since you can just click on the link, but one set NO ONE saw me run at the newbie sarge was easily my best set.
So, I saw this smoking hot 4-set walk by (3 girls and 1 dude). Two girls in the set were blonde bombshell 10s. They looked like twins, one good and one evil. One was dressed in black, the other in white. They let the chode guy they were walking around with buy them a bottle of wine then sat at a table in almost the EXACT spot I picked up Asian Model. See, the problem with this position is it's out on balcony at a table in a corner. Opening means immediately throwing your IOI card on the table because there's NO REASON why anyone would walk to a corner to ask a random question on the sexuality of dogs. So the indirect opinion opener is completely out the question. However, not knowing the relationship of the guy to the girls, going direct is also out of the question. What to do, what to do? When I saw the HB Blonde 10 Dressed in Black get up, I knew what I had to do...
TJ: (Walks past HB10 Blonde In Block, looks over balcony at the NYC skyline) Hey dude, I'm not from around here. What part of Manhattan am I looking at?
HB10 Blonde in Black: Hey dude? Gentlemen don't call girls dudes.
TJ: Yeah, but it was such a cool Nickelodeon show.
HB10 Blonde in Black: HAHAHA, I remember that one.
TJ: But Salute Your Shorts was wayyyy better. I wanted to go to Camp Ontowana so bad. I remember the day I found out it was just a t.v. show, my dreams were crushed...
HB10 Blonde in Black: Hahahaha, yeah that was a good one, too.
TJ: So dude, what part of Manhattan am I looking at?
HB10 Blonde in Black: (Looks at TJ like 'you didn't just call me 'dude' again') That's the Lower East Side.
TJ: Cool, so get this...(stacks into something ridiculous)
(Once BT is spike and I've gotten several IOIs)
TJ: I can't believe you.
HB10 BIB: What?
TJ: No, I mean for a smart girl I can't believe you haven't figured it out yet.
HB10 BIB: Figured what out?
TJ: You can't tell from my accent...
HB10 BIB: I have no idea what you're talking about.
TJ: My accent is straight New York. I can't believe you actually believed me what I said I wasn't from here. I know that's the Lower East Side...
HB10 BIB: (Punches TJ's arm) Then why'd you come over here and ask???
TJ: (Smile) Well, you looked interesting with your little black turtle neck and classy glass of wine. I noticed you and I was like, 'I gotta find out if that girl's cool or she's just a poser.' But I couldn't just come over like all these schmucks (points over balcony) so I had to have a pretense. Even though you failed my gullibility test, you've racked up some cool points with me.
HB10 BIB: You shit! Hahahaha, I can't believe you!
Calibration is key.
PAX.
~TJ
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Saturday, May 3, 2008
The Khaki Update: Closing in on the end of the year
If you come here to read about pick-up artisty stuff, skip the first paragraph.
For those of you interested in my ongoing college-application saga: I took the SATs today and I feel like I killed them. I had enough time to do every single question TWICE on every section but the essay, so I should be in pretty good shape. These last couple of weeks have been some of the worst of my life school-wise, and I have APs all next week, but I have a short break this afternoon before I have to get back to hard-core French studying for Monday. Hopefully I'll be able to check in a bit more once I'm done with APs. Good to see you guys are still coming here, and hi to all the new people!
(Added for clarity: I'm a junior this year.)
So I never thought I would have any real "issues" with prom. 'Specially not since I got involved in the community. Oh was I wrong...
So I'm going to my last class of the day, and this UG4.5 comes up to me. I've got some pretty close mutual friends with her, and we're on pretty good terms, but this girl is NOT someone I'm very close to. And not only is she unattractive, but she's also just obnoxious. She's pretty smart, but not really someone I want to spend tons of time with. For the past couple of weeks, this girl had been coming up and joining conversations I was in. This didn't seem so out of the ordinary, since most of the time I was talking to mutual friends, and I just assumed her friends weren't around the rest of the time. She'd also been laughing at most things I said, but so do most people I don't really know that well, so I just attributed that to my new-found charisma. Needless to say, I wasn't looking for IOIs in this girl.
So I, and a bunch of other people, agree not to ask anybody to prom before May 1. Whatever. Our prom isn't until June 14.
So, on May 1, before I've asked anybody, this girl comes up to me, and like a total Average Frustrated Chick, starts off, "uh, Khaki, I was thinking... of going to prom and..." at this point, I just totally tuned her out. I knew where this was going, and it was trouble. I have a lot of mutual friends with this girl, and I know I don't have the hurt to totally crush her, so my mind races as I think of what to do. My frame literally melts because I realize that this girl doesn't have the self-esteem to take the kind of thing I would normally say. I actually can't think of a way to reject her without ruining her self-esteem. I have no experience with this kind of stuff, and I've never even thought about it before. Big mistake.
She finishes talking. Crap. I better reply.
Khaki: uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... suuurre (I must have literally said the word "uh" for two full seconds)
4.5Obnoxious: Great! *scurries off*
Fuck. FUCK!! What's wrong with me? Did I really just agree to that? I literally bite my lip as soon as I say this, because even though I haven't thought through all of the ramifications yet, I realize that this bad, bad, bad. I go to the bathroom before class and punch the air in frustration. I sit through my last class, and then am FUMING the entire trip home. About half way there, I realize that not only can I not go to prom with anybody cool, and not only do I have to spend hours of my life with this chick, but, uh, she might think that I'm actually interested in her.
Thoughts start running through my head. She had to have known I wouldn't crush her self esteem. How could she have put me on the spot like that? How could SHE have asked ME on May 1? How could she not have realized that there was no reason I would ever, EVER be attracted to her? Suddenly I realize why HBs put up bitch shields.
The moral of the story is that everybody should have some sort of rejection that they're comfortable using on unattractive, low self-esteem girls. You never know what someone who has mutual friends with you or a coworker might do...
Also, if you guys have any idea how the fuck to fix this, I'm all ears. I'm gonna try to get an AFC friend to put the pressure on her to go with him, but I dunno if I can find someone who would actually do that, and I dunno if it'll work. Any other ideas?
Yich, I really screwed myself here.
Alright, peace guys.
For those of you interested in my ongoing college-application saga: I took the SATs today and I feel like I killed them. I had enough time to do every single question TWICE on every section but the essay, so I should be in pretty good shape. These last couple of weeks have been some of the worst of my life school-wise, and I have APs all next week, but I have a short break this afternoon before I have to get back to hard-core French studying for Monday. Hopefully I'll be able to check in a bit more once I'm done with APs. Good to see you guys are still coming here, and hi to all the new people!
(Added for clarity: I'm a junior this year.)
So I never thought I would have any real "issues" with prom. 'Specially not since I got involved in the community. Oh was I wrong...
So I'm going to my last class of the day, and this UG4.5 comes up to me. I've got some pretty close mutual friends with her, and we're on pretty good terms, but this girl is NOT someone I'm very close to. And not only is she unattractive, but she's also just obnoxious. She's pretty smart, but not really someone I want to spend tons of time with. For the past couple of weeks, this girl had been coming up and joining conversations I was in. This didn't seem so out of the ordinary, since most of the time I was talking to mutual friends, and I just assumed her friends weren't around the rest of the time. She'd also been laughing at most things I said, but so do most people I don't really know that well, so I just attributed that to my new-found charisma. Needless to say, I wasn't looking for IOIs in this girl.
So I, and a bunch of other people, agree not to ask anybody to prom before May 1. Whatever. Our prom isn't until June 14.
So, on May 1, before I've asked anybody, this girl comes up to me, and like a total Average Frustrated Chick, starts off, "uh, Khaki, I was thinking... of going to prom and..." at this point, I just totally tuned her out. I knew where this was going, and it was trouble. I have a lot of mutual friends with this girl, and I know I don't have the hurt to totally crush her, so my mind races as I think of what to do. My frame literally melts because I realize that this girl doesn't have the self-esteem to take the kind of thing I would normally say. I actually can't think of a way to reject her without ruining her self-esteem. I have no experience with this kind of stuff, and I've never even thought about it before. Big mistake.
She finishes talking. Crap. I better reply.
Khaki: uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... suuurre (I must have literally said the word "uh" for two full seconds)
4.5Obnoxious: Great! *scurries off*
Fuck. FUCK!! What's wrong with me? Did I really just agree to that? I literally bite my lip as soon as I say this, because even though I haven't thought through all of the ramifications yet, I realize that this bad, bad, bad. I go to the bathroom before class and punch the air in frustration. I sit through my last class, and then am FUMING the entire trip home. About half way there, I realize that not only can I not go to prom with anybody cool, and not only do I have to spend hours of my life with this chick, but, uh, she might think that I'm actually interested in her.
Thoughts start running through my head. She had to have known I wouldn't crush her self esteem. How could she have put me on the spot like that? How could SHE have asked ME on May 1? How could she not have realized that there was no reason I would ever, EVER be attracted to her? Suddenly I realize why HBs put up bitch shields.
The moral of the story is that everybody should have some sort of rejection that they're comfortable using on unattractive, low self-esteem girls. You never know what someone who has mutual friends with you or a coworker might do...
Also, if you guys have any idea how the fuck to fix this, I'm all ears. I'm gonna try to get an AFC friend to put the pressure on her to go with him, but I dunno if I can find someone who would actually do that, and I dunno if it'll work. Any other ideas?
Yich, I really screwed myself here.
Alright, peace guys.
Friday, May 2, 2008
Quick post: The Pickup Artist reframe
Hey guys, at work but I wanted to throw up a really quick post with something funny that happened last night. So I'm out with Prof Steve and Summa getting ready for a night on the town when, as we pull up to my favorite PUA stomping ground, Summa realizes he doesn't have his ID. Sucks, but we end up trekking back to the trashy bars by my apartment because I'm socially proofed there and they no longer card me (or my friends).
We end up at this big venue, very trashy, but which always attracts a decent number of HBs. So this place has "live karaoke" night where they actually have a band play and people come up and sing (actually pretty cool). While the noise level is tough to compete with, the quality of HBs this attracts is pretty good.
So, as we're all settling in, Sebastian shows up and we spot the only quality girls in the venue. It's a 3-set with a 7.5, 8.5, and an UG. So, now wanting to wait too long (being 4 guys standing around a bar), we all decide someone should open. However, no one moves. (This is a weird phenomenon I've noticed when going out in big groups of guys: PUA Paralysis where there's so many guys, no one wants to actually open...it's the equivalent of "Genovese syndrome" in psychology).
Steve says, "This looks like a Judge set" and pushes me forward. Happy to have an incentive to open a hot set but with a little anxiety, I walk up to the girls with a feeling in the pit of my stomach akin to the initial assent of a roller coaster (you know, where the coast is slowly clicking up the tracks right before the big drop).
TJ: Hey guys. I gotta know. Has anyone sung any Journey yet?
HBs: askljlfkjsdlfksdl (whatever)
TJ: Because I gotta sing "Don't Stop Believing"...you know what I'm talking about...
So the set opens, the girls start playing along. I tell them they can be my backup singers. Then I tell them they probably can't sing so maybe they can just dance around me while I rock out. I belt out some lines from "Don't Stop Believing". The girls are cracking up (I have a horrible voice "btw").
But logistically, I wasn't in a good place. I was closest to HB7.5 while the HB8.5 started to lose interest because she couldn't hear me (the band was playing loud). The UB, who was on my right, began to engage the HB8.5 thus shutting me out. To reengage the 8.5 would've been try-hard so I accept the situation and start gaming HB7.5.
And she was pretty awesome.
This girl gave me tons of compliance and IOIs right from the get-go. We had a great vibe and built a few plot lines and role plays together. At one point, I see Prof Steve and Summa enter the set but eject a few minutes later (Prof Steve later told me the friend said to him, "Listen, I don't mean to be rude, but I really don't want to talk to you" (!!!!!)) The UG quickly turned on me and tried to blow me out a few times. (Once trying the old, "Let's go dance!!!!" move where the friend replied, "In a minute, he's funny. I like him.") Anyway, after 10 minutes of gaming this girl I saw the potential for a full pull. She was definitely giving me the IOIs and my value was high.
But then my friends started pushing to leave. I don't blame them being this a very target-poor environment, but I still had some work to do in the set (seeding the D2, setting up an anti-flake defense). I tell them I'll meet up with them in a minute, turn to HB7.5 and tell her she gets 2 more minutes of my time. She claps her hand like a SeaWorld seal that just performed a trick.
I seed the D2, make an "engagement" ring out of her straw, then hand her my phone and say, "Okay put your number in." Let's switch to a script:
HB7.5: Okay, there you go. You better call me soon.
TJ: Look at this. We're not engaged 2 minutes and you're already bossing me around. You know, keep this up and I'm gonna divorce your ass. And I'm taking the cats. Fluffy's mine.
HB7.5: (Shocked face) (Said something funny, don't remember what exactly)
TJ: Hahaha, okay. I'll call you but if you come out, you better bring that feisty wit.
HB7.5: I will!
TJ: Good, because I NEVER meet girls who can genuinely make me laugh. Seriously, in my whole life, I've met like 5 girls who can make me L-O-L. Now, after tonight, I've met like 5 and a half girls who can make me L-O-L. Nice! I'm glad I came over here and talked to you about Journey...
Hb7.5: Five and a half? What do you mean?
TJ: Well sweetheart, you haven't totally won me over yet...
HB7.5: Ohh, and you're negging me.
TJ: Huh? (It was actually so loud I thought I was hearing things)
HB7.5: Yeah, don't think I don't know what you're doing. You're trying to neg me.
TJ: OH MY GOD! I know what you're talking about! From that show...The...The...
HB7.5: The Pickup Artist! Yeah, I watched it! I know alllllllllllllllllllllllllll about negs!
TJ: Holy shit, I've SEEN that show. I know what you're up to. What are you going to do next, tell me I have nice nails, then ask if their real?
HB7.5: Haha, yeah, I'm gonna start DHVing.
TJ: You know what, that's bullshit. I came over here and thought we were having a real conversation and you've just been doing "pickup artist" shit on me the whole time. Fucking girls, you guys just think about one thing...
HB7.5: Noooooo, we have been having a real conversation...I just thought that was neg!
TJ: Is this a neg now, too?
HB7.5: AHHHHHHHHHHHH NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!
Ah, frame control. The irony of it all...
We end up at this big venue, very trashy, but which always attracts a decent number of HBs. So this place has "live karaoke" night where they actually have a band play and people come up and sing (actually pretty cool). While the noise level is tough to compete with, the quality of HBs this attracts is pretty good.
So, as we're all settling in, Sebastian shows up and we spot the only quality girls in the venue. It's a 3-set with a 7.5, 8.5, and an UG. So, now wanting to wait too long (being 4 guys standing around a bar), we all decide someone should open. However, no one moves. (This is a weird phenomenon I've noticed when going out in big groups of guys: PUA Paralysis where there's so many guys, no one wants to actually open...it's the equivalent of "Genovese syndrome" in psychology).
Steve says, "This looks like a Judge set" and pushes me forward. Happy to have an incentive to open a hot set but with a little anxiety, I walk up to the girls with a feeling in the pit of my stomach akin to the initial assent of a roller coaster (you know, where the coast is slowly clicking up the tracks right before the big drop).
TJ: Hey guys. I gotta know. Has anyone sung any Journey yet?
HBs: askljlfkjsdlfksdl (whatever)
TJ: Because I gotta sing "Don't Stop Believing"...you know what I'm talking about...
So the set opens, the girls start playing along. I tell them they can be my backup singers. Then I tell them they probably can't sing so maybe they can just dance around me while I rock out. I belt out some lines from "Don't Stop Believing". The girls are cracking up (I have a horrible voice "btw").
But logistically, I wasn't in a good place. I was closest to HB7.5 while the HB8.5 started to lose interest because she couldn't hear me (the band was playing loud). The UB, who was on my right, began to engage the HB8.5 thus shutting me out. To reengage the 8.5 would've been try-hard so I accept the situation and start gaming HB7.5.
And she was pretty awesome.
This girl gave me tons of compliance and IOIs right from the get-go. We had a great vibe and built a few plot lines and role plays together. At one point, I see Prof Steve and Summa enter the set but eject a few minutes later (Prof Steve later told me the friend said to him, "Listen, I don't mean to be rude, but I really don't want to talk to you" (!!!!!)) The UG quickly turned on me and tried to blow me out a few times. (Once trying the old, "Let's go dance!!!!" move where the friend replied, "In a minute, he's funny. I like him.") Anyway, after 10 minutes of gaming this girl I saw the potential for a full pull. She was definitely giving me the IOIs and my value was high.
But then my friends started pushing to leave. I don't blame them being this a very target-poor environment, but I still had some work to do in the set (seeding the D2, setting up an anti-flake defense). I tell them I'll meet up with them in a minute, turn to HB7.5 and tell her she gets 2 more minutes of my time. She claps her hand like a SeaWorld seal that just performed a trick.
I seed the D2, make an "engagement" ring out of her straw, then hand her my phone and say, "Okay put your number in." Let's switch to a script:
HB7.5: Okay, there you go. You better call me soon.
TJ: Look at this. We're not engaged 2 minutes and you're already bossing me around. You know, keep this up and I'm gonna divorce your ass. And I'm taking the cats. Fluffy's mine.
HB7.5: (Shocked face) (Said something funny, don't remember what exactly)
TJ: Hahaha, okay. I'll call you but if you come out, you better bring that feisty wit.
HB7.5: I will!
TJ: Good, because I NEVER meet girls who can genuinely make me laugh. Seriously, in my whole life, I've met like 5 girls who can make me L-O-L. Now, after tonight, I've met like 5 and a half girls who can make me L-O-L. Nice! I'm glad I came over here and talked to you about Journey...
Hb7.5: Five and a half? What do you mean?
TJ: Well sweetheart, you haven't totally won me over yet...
HB7.5: Ohh, and you're negging me.
TJ: Huh? (It was actually so loud I thought I was hearing things)
HB7.5: Yeah, don't think I don't know what you're doing. You're trying to neg me.
TJ: OH MY GOD! I know what you're talking about! From that show...The...The...
HB7.5: The Pickup Artist! Yeah, I watched it! I know alllllllllllllllllllllllllll about negs!
TJ: Holy shit, I've SEEN that show. I know what you're up to. What are you going to do next, tell me I have nice nails, then ask if their real?
HB7.5: Haha, yeah, I'm gonna start DHVing.
TJ: You know what, that's bullshit. I came over here and thought we were having a real conversation and you've just been doing "pickup artist" shit on me the whole time. Fucking girls, you guys just think about one thing...
HB7.5: Noooooo, we have been having a real conversation...I just thought that was neg!
TJ: Is this a neg now, too?
HB7.5: AHHHHHHHHHHHH NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!
Ah, frame control. The irony of it all...
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Thursday, May 1, 2008
Progress
Ok guys, sorry i haven't I haven't been posting but I've been pretty busy with school lately and really I haven't done much sarging to post about. I have however progressed quite a ways to some of my goals and especially in expanding my social circle. I wanted to take a minute and post about that exact social circle and the project I've been working on reversing your preselection or your "street cred" in high school.
In grade 10 I was super popular, I knew almost everyone in my grade and hung out with all the grade twelves. However I was also a major AFC and when I started dating on the older girls I simply hung around her constantly and therefore losing all the social connections I made when arriving, and of course we broke up. It's come to the point where two weeks ago I had two friends that I hung around with. Since I started really trying to turn my social life around it has gone a a bit better but I don't want to have connections with the higher end high school people as well.Now, I've been studying Edward Bernays (Big PR man back in the 1900's) and some of his techniques gave me inspiration in this project. What he would do to help sell a product or some other idea is create a social event linking that product to something that was popular in that time. This gave me the idea of holding my own small poker tournament at my house on a weekend. Poker is really big right now and in my school the kids all play it (betting underneath the table of course) at lunch. I would host the event, throw in some free drinks set the buy in to fifty dollars for an eight person tournament and bam, I got a big popular event linked to me. Now, whether this will work or not of course I can't be certain until I try it out but i will keep you posted.
Also I will be moving a block away from the best day game location in my city at the end of the month so expect FR's to fly out starting then!
One question, does anybody have any pointers or suggested reading material on being funny? I heard Double Your Dating was good but I don't want to buy something before I know what I'm going to get.
Thanks guys, I'm out.
-Shadow5a
In grade 10 I was super popular, I knew almost everyone in my grade and hung out with all the grade twelves. However I was also a major AFC and when I started dating on the older girls I simply hung around her constantly and therefore losing all the social connections I made when arriving, and of course we broke up. It's come to the point where two weeks ago I had two friends that I hung around with. Since I started really trying to turn my social life around it has gone a a bit better but I don't want to have connections with the higher end high school people as well.Now, I've been studying Edward Bernays (Big PR man back in the 1900's) and some of his techniques gave me inspiration in this project. What he would do to help sell a product or some other idea is create a social event linking that product to something that was popular in that time. This gave me the idea of holding my own small poker tournament at my house on a weekend. Poker is really big right now and in my school the kids all play it (betting underneath the table of course) at lunch. I would host the event, throw in some free drinks set the buy in to fifty dollars for an eight person tournament and bam, I got a big popular event linked to me. Now, whether this will work or not of course I can't be certain until I try it out but i will keep you posted.
Also I will be moving a block away from the best day game location in my city at the end of the month so expect FR's to fly out starting then!
One question, does anybody have any pointers or suggested reading material on being funny? I heard Double Your Dating was good but I don't want to buy something before I know what I'm going to get.
Thanks guys, I'm out.
-Shadow5a
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