Alright, so I'm not a firm believer in routines and gimmicks. By routines, I mean a set form of what to do each night when you guys go out. I don't have a problem with people using routines and gimmicks, but I do have a problem with how people are using them and how these techniques are utilized in field. I see a lot of rookie mistakes when it comes to pure gaming. Gaming should feel, look, and be natural. Using routines doesn't necessarily count anybody out from being natural, but it's something about guys I see who use routines incorrectly that pisses me off. Or, sometimes, guys take things out of context when it comes to game. I want to see guys become naturals. Here is my take on ways to become natural without being natural:
So, I'm a natural in field when it comes to attraction, but I do get off my game at times. I don't rely on any type of set standards when it comes to game (except the idea of social proof, DHV, etc.). Here are rookie mistakes that I see consistently that involves routines and gimmicks:
1) The idea of peacocking gone wrong. Yes, I've been seeing this more and more. To me, this is a routine. Like I said, there's nothing wrong with peacocking, but seriously; please do not go overboard with this. To me, it gives me a perception of lower value and when I do ask girls opinions about how guys dress in the stupid kind of "peacock" manner, they find it low value. Peacocking is a way of expressing your inner game and values to the environment you're in; not showing how stupid you could look for a fashion show.
2) Warm up approaches... There is no such fuckin' thing. Once you're in a venue, you're there for two reasons: having fun and getting pulls. This is a routine, by which, is a set form of what you do every time you go out. So recently, there was one of my friends who "thinks" he can pull chicks. However, if you get blown out and tell me it's a warm up approach, why is she the fuckin' hottest girl in the venue? Never give that bullshit. Warm up approaches is just an excuse for getting rejected. Solution for this is to move on and look for more targets and then come back. Pretty much like shopping.
3) Quantity over quality. I am really fuckin' tired of seeing guys get five hundred numbers, but getting only one ring pick up on the phone. I know some of you guys like to get as many numbers as possible, but it's the worst routine I have seen yet. Why get so many numbers and waste valuable time? Getting twenty numbers from ugly ass girls doesn't make you good at pick up. It makes you good at getting rotten pussy.
4) Having to prove something each night. Alright, so recently, I had a good talk with a fellow Philly lair cat. Well, more like last month. He told me that whenever he sees someone with a hot chick, he has to compete. To me, this is beta behavior. Being alpha is being a guy who knows that he can get whatever he wants and that he knows he doesn't have to compete with anybody. Do not make this mistake in field.
So anyways, these were things that I've been seeing recently when I was in field. I hope nobody ever make these mistakes in field because it is VERY sad to watch.
Being natural is pretty easy to recognize within yourself. If anything is comfortable to you, it's natural. If it isn't, make it natural. Once you know you're natural, your inner game is tight. At least, that's what I believe.
"Be like water, my friend." -Bruce Lee.
Become natural.
-Hengman.
P.S. Stupid cats are having sex and it's so fuckin' loud. It's fuckin' 4:52AM right now.
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Nice points Hengman I really like your idea of quality over quantity. One thing I don't exactly agree with is warm up approaches.
I know when I first start my game and end (on days that I specifically set for going out to sarge) I find that my state improves as I open more and more. It should definitely not be used as an excuse, every approach should be taken seriously but I definitely recommend opening a few HB8's before going after the HB10 right away.
I love the idea of natural. I try not to use many routines, there a lot of gambits I like to throw in conversation (my favorite I actually stole from TJ, the high five thing) but I rarely use a canned opener now. I'm hoping to internalize my game so that it becomes a habit.
Great post...keep up the tips Hengman!
Hey what's up Hengman, Shadow and everyone else.
Great post Heng...I feel like everyone evolves from the "routine" and structured game into naturals.
I've been on the fence about writing on the internet (for complicated reasons), but I'll throw a few pieces out there as it relates to what Heng's writing about (bear in mind, I've literally slept 2 hours in the last 2 days...I came into work today straight after going out all night !!)
Basically, I see learning game like going back to high school...fuck it, this metaphor needs it's own post. Hold on...
Hey Shadow,
Umm, you're taking the context of what I meant by "routines" the wrong way from what I'm assuming.
And my approach towards warm up approach basically means that there are no such thing as excuses. If you are doing approaches and are doing better, that's not because of warm up approaching. It's because your inner game kicks in.
Yo, TJ. What's up? Please call me Gerry. That is some shit. 2 hours of sleep?! DAMN! I can't survive on that shit. Props to you! :)
That's my boy!
I agree with no warm up sets. The very first set I ever gamed wound up in my bed a week later...every set counts!
Ok, so I'll add another one: Fucking for the sake of fucking (and then posting a LR).
I know guys who'll pull ugs just because they need to 'pay their dues' and so they can post a LR.
I'm in this to improve my social skills and then seduce hot women. Ugs aren't that hard to pull firstly, so why bother going to bootcamps, seminars, forums and reading/listening to hours of material? Secondly, posting LRs that have no tactical insight is bragging/validation-seeking. And a guy who needs to receive validation from men he's never met shows he has some inner game work still to do.
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