Point 3 is 1.) the most important aspect in becoming a PUA 2.) the reason most guys will never become a PUA 3.) the single, definitive reason every unhappy person in the course of human history remained/remains unhappy.
Point 3 is best demonstrated by Wile E. Coyote. I remember watching Wile E. Coyote chase Roadrunner, not realize he was chasing Road Runner off a cliff, and chug along in midair until he noticed there was no ground under his feet. Then he’d sheepishly look at the camera as gravity slowly pulled him toward a plummeting dive into a canyon.
As a kid, I never found this funny. It still pisses me off. Every time this happened/happens, I felt like screaming, “WHY DON’T YOU JUST NOT LOOK DOWN?!”
However, Point 3 isn’t about looking down. Point 3 is about running off the cliff.
You see, so many people set goals or decide they’re going to take control of their life in some way. By setting a goal or trying to take control of an aspect of your life, you’re essentially becoming a newer, better person. You want to become You 2.0. However, You 2.0 is not You 1.0 (you now). You 2.0 is someone else, someone you don’t know yet. In the example of PUA, You 2.0 is a guy who’s awesome with ladies.
With PUA, I hear so many guys say, “Oh yeah! This stuff is awesome! I’m gonna go apply Mystery Method and be a ladies’ man” but never actually consider what’s involved in applying Mystery Method. You have to be confident. You have to be interesting. You have to be unafraid of approaching strangers. You have to be non-needy. You have to be so many things that you’re NOT now or else there’s no reason you’d be interested in Mystery Method in the first place.
However, most (failed/destined to fail) PUAs think they’ll just memorize some lines or learn a structure and it’ll just happen. They see the cliff but stop short of running off of it. Running off the cliff is charting into unknown territory. Running off the cliff is uncomfortable. Running off the cliff can be humiliating.
On the other hand, the guys who actually get good at PUA are guys who project confidence, project interesting qualities, project non-neediness. Notice how I’m using the verb “project” and not “become”. By projecting these qualities, you’re running off the cliff. You’re leaving your comfort zone, you’re venturing on ground that’s not a reality for you (yet).
And eventually, you’ll look down and plummet into a canyon (read getting blown out by HBs).
But something happens every time you run off the cliff. You get a little further. For the guy who suffers from severe AA, if he just FORCES himself to open a set, he might crash and burn right after, but next time he’ll get a little further. For the guy who has a hard time interrupting a yapping girl early in a set (a problem I had, very important to do…be alpha, she’s in your reality!), if he forces himself to do it, it’s unnatural and incongruent with the person he is NOW but it’s completely natural and congruent with the guys he’s trying to BECOME.
This is the first blog entry and I think it’s the most important in terms of how this Community can help people achieve PUA status. I know a lot of people will check this blog to learn what stories and routines I’ve written, invented, and field-tested and that’s fine. However, I think Point 3 is more important to your game and something we can all help each other through. Point 3 is bizarre, awkward, and painful but if you KNOW you have to deliver a field report on your progress and how you stretched your comfort zone, you’ll do it (also, remember field reports in this community MUST be honest per Court Laws). I’m sure when an insect molts its skin, it feels vulnerable. Think of the discomfort of Point 3 as you molting your AFC skin to become You 2.0, the PUA You.
Just to get the ball rolling, I’ll write up a FR on my greatest and most disappointing PUA story to date. (As you can probably guess, I was running full-speed off the cliff, doing awesome, until I suddenly realized I wasn’t on solid ground…)
Court Announcements:
I. I’ll leave this blog public for the weekend (probably won’t update it as my sarging nights are Thursday, Friday, Saturday) but will probably set this blog to private early next week. So, if you’re interested in joining this Community, all you have to do is make a Gmail handle and email me (TheJudge999@Gmail.com) or PM me on the VA boards (“The Judge”). Also, in your email/PM, give me 1 reason why you’re joining the Community and 1 positive attribute you can add to this Community.
II. For now, feel free to post responses to the comment section and relate your Point 3 moments of glory/embarrassment (preferably embarrassment though).
III. I’ll write up a comprehensive entry on how I envision this Community being run (i.e. posting people’s entries/FR) and all that good stuff soon.
IV. I bought a PC mic the other day and recorded my first story (“The Grabby Fatty”) but can’t figure out how to upload it. If anyone understands blogger, let me know…
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I'm new to the community or as it's commonly called, the game, and don't have a lot of FR's that are good or bad, just a few hum drum sets. What I do have are a lot of memories of my AFC days and all the missed chances.
This actually is the crux of my "Point 3" story, and in an attempt to get things rolling in this private sector, I will just try to be genuine.
I truly am not now that which I have been.
The PUA community has taught me that me not meeting girls has nothing to do with the fact that I'm 5'7" or that I'm not attractive (I do get compliments on my looks. I'm above average) or not of the same social status as the women I desire.
In the past I have approached HB8s and higher but have been blown out and was trained like a Pavlovian dog that approaching them would result in the same thing.
I never realized that it was not me personally that was being rejected, it was my approach and my interaction that were getting me rejected.
Now that I have a new found belief that I can and will succeed my entire outlook on life has changed.
No longer do I allow myself to think negatively about myself. The second I do, I correct myself. Just doing this for the past month or so has made me more confident about everything I do.
Trying to project a positive image, I smile a lot. People sometimes ask me why. People are opening me because I suddenly look socially available. My head is up, my back is straight. My voice is deeper and projects more. My words are filled with confidence.
I walked into the salon yesterday for a haircut and they told me how much weight I lost and how good I looked. I didn't lose a pound but they didn't know what else it could have been.
My game needs a lot of work but until it does, I have already improved my life.
I am not now that which I have been.
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