First off I would like to start this post by thanking The Judge. He has provided a great deal of assistance and willingness to provide excellent advice when it comes to helping me deal with the various sticking points that I have encountered. I do not think I would have made nearly the progress that I have made, let alone any progress at all without your help. If there is anything that I can do to repay you, let me know (if you ever need any free accounting help I am your man).
It has been a little bit over a month since I offered by ultimatum, in that time I probably have made between thirty and forty approaches. Those approaches have turned into 3 numbers (four actually but one was fake, ouch but I had a feeling that I asked way to soon after like 3 minutes) but no day 2s. So I definitely think that I have a problem with the attraction and I am going to work on that, but that is more numbers that I have gotten in my entire life previously on cold approaches( I have gotten numbers before but it was always a friend of a friend or a girl approaching me).
Anyways, last night I was laying in bed unable to sleep after I just got done rereading double your dating, and decided that I needed to set some goals for myself relating to pick-up. I decided that it shouldn’t relate to # closes, because numbers don’t really mean anything as I have been finding out. So what I decided is that I would make 1000 approaches by the end of the year. That is roughly 3 a day or 23 a week, every week for the rest of the year.
Oh, and when did this blog turn into such a ghost town??
3 comments:
Yeah, where'd all these tumbleweeds come from?
1000 approaches in a year is a good goal, though you may find yourself exceeding this (I'm pretty sure I did more than 1000 in my first 3 months).
I do want to take issue with your concern about flakes. It's probably not the attraction you need to work on, but the comfort, to reduce your flaking. I get attraction up the wazoo, buying temp through the roof, and #s that are like stealing candy from a baby. But then if I spend any less than 20-30 minutes in solid comfort, I get flakes.
So work on attraction, but try really hard to find venues where women want to be isolated for a good 20 minutes, because that will go a long way towards reducing your flake rate.
Keep us updated!
Posey -
Great post. This is why I created this blog. Anyway, I'm glad I was able to help. Feel free to continue to send me your stories or whatever, I'm always happy to help anyone in this blog.
Setting goals is exactly what you need to be doing. Three approaches a day is perfect. Even if it's not a HB, opening random people can be just as useful.
Decibel makes a lot of good points. As my game keeps evolving, I noticed sometimes the #-close is more for my own satisfaction than it is for the seduction. I've #-closed so many girls who were all over me only to have them not even pick up their phone when I call them the next day. This morning when I was shaving I thought of an awesome term for this phenomena: The Cinderella Effect. It's like a midnight these girls suddenly transform back into boring people who didn't have an amazing night with me. I agree comfort is very important in converting attraction into actual numbers. But sometimes even THAT gets fucked up somehow. (This is very strange as sometimes I spend 1-1 1/2 hour getting to know someone, make out with them, etc. and even THEY won't even pick up their phone!) I'm gonna post a FR/update tonight, but I find the most success lately (and I have to FT this more extensively) is to plan a future hang out ON THE SPOT. And I'm not talking, "I know this awesome sushi place, I'll show it to you. Here, give me your number." Because, trust me, I've used that one no less than 20 times and have converted it into a D2 maybe twice. Here's what I'm FTing and believe this is the answer to flakes, "Hey, I'm not one of these corny bar guys who's gonna take your number and call 50 times a day. We like each other. You're cool. But I gotta go find my friends. Here, I have to work on part of my novel tomorrow and I'll be at the Starbucks on blah street and blah ave at 8pm. Come meet me and distract me for a few." Granted I've NEVER used that exact line and I've only started applying this type of close in the last week. However, I have gone 2 for 2 in converting this into a D2. By doing this, you come off TOTALLY unneedy because you're not even taking her number (again, this is advanced shit, getting numbers in the beginning is fine). Usually girls will INSIST you take their number (going as far as to rip your phone out of your hand and program it in). Both times I did this, both times the girl flipped out and insisted I take her number. And both times the girls called/texted ME the next day. Again, this is just food-for-thought, but it might be something to consider trying once or twice.
Anyway, keep us all updated.
Oh, some quick blog updates: Are people having trouble posting? I'll address this later but blogger has been acting all weird lately.
Also, I wrote up a FR I'll post tonight with some new routines, etc.
Pax.
~TJ
Cool man... great post. Good to see people still alive here. I have something I'm considering writing up on myself, but I'm totally overwhelmed with work right now.
Looking forward to more updates, Posey!
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