Being Different.

Well, I'm in an environment where I'm the only Asian kid (who isn't adopted) here. Sucks? Nah. I actually like the feeling.

Anyways, I wanna speak about how being different helps with general value. Since I am isolated here, I've been experiencing a lot of cool things just for being different. As much as I hate being called different from anybody, it's pretty obvious if I'm the flame in the surrounding water.

Being different:

1) One advantage that I have is using my race to get to a statement. A kid here racially slurred me with, "Speak English." I, in return, turned that around on him and he got into big trouble with the multi-ethnic committee here. Oh well for him.

2) Being different in a non-diverse setting is really cool. I get plenty of approach invitations and interest indicators because I'm, well, different. Most of the girls here are really intrigued by guys they were never really around. A lot of high value males here, but none who are high valued and diverse as I am. It's really easy for me to approach and get shit tested. You know when you get shit tested, it means that she fuckin' wants you BAD.

3) Since I stand out so damn much, some people ask me how do I do it. Simple. Being different, (and not by just my race), I tend to live out of the stereo-types. Think about it. If I were to wear diamonds, wear Abercrombie and Fitch (I modeled there so I dunno how that would really work), and have a preppy style haircut, I'm deemed to be the typical rich Asian boy. However, I dress in business casual and whatever the fuck I like because I like the way I look in the style I wear. Most guys tend to forget this and live in the stereo-type of how they (as a group like a football player, prep, etc.) are generalized by society. Some girls may not like preppy boys, but if you dress preppy and the prettiest girl in the crowd is tired of preppy boys, do you think it's really that easy to talk to her? No, it isn't. Your value would disintegrate.

Having your own individual shapes how things work around you. If you're a cool dude, everyone would want to be cool with you because you're a cool dude. If you're a dick, then nobody wants to chill with you. Get my point? Being different is more along the likes of shaping yourself to a position where you're most comfortable with yourself and society and expressing it in a way where you're not at a disadvantage.

For me, I have a don't give a shit attitude. I dress like a movie star, I talk to people by giving them value, and I am known as being the cool guy around who girls want to fuck. Simple statement. Being different has its advantages, so if there are any guys who are still chode about leaving their comfort zones (the negative aspects of it), they won't ever have a way of experiencing their own individual.

Being different doesn't mean that you're supposed to stand out entirely. Being different is showing off your own expressions and attitude to the world in your OWN way. Don't wear a shirt that everyone wears because, well, everyone's wearing it. Wear a shirt that expresses you. Don't speak in another person's dialect. Speak in your own tongue. You get the point.

As for the attitude, I'm tired of meeting insecure dudes. Insecurity is so fuckin' overrated that it's not even a joke anymore. These guys swear they're cool, swear they're getting somewhere, swear they're gonna be a something; however, they're nothing. They don't know how to get past a comfort zone that has a negative impact.

An example I can use would be this dude, Jason. He looks pretty dorky, walks like he's anti-social, and has issues with himself. I saw a group of people here mess with him and I decided to do something about it by teaching Jason how to get women. So, I had a brief moment with Jason and I found out everything. Everytime I tried to tell him, "Hey look, you know you're still in your little 'zone'," he tries to qualify himself to me. From there, I spotted the insecurity. High valued males never qualify to anyone 'cause it doesn't fuckin' matter.

So, anyone who is scared of finding themselves, you guys need to really get out and explore. And when that happens, you've found your identity.

Thanks for reading.

-Gerry.