Number closing?

For the past few months, I've been giving out advice to guys as to how to #-close their targets and what 'gambits' to use. And finally it came to me how wrong we've been all along.

There is a new trend blowing through the PUA community that I dubbed 'Back to the basics', we've all seen it. RSD has been working on it for a while now, and you can see it in all the big names lately, the group I'm part of has recently taken a big U-turn in our discussions and tactics, it's all been going from Tactics to Natural.

My online wingmen have also caught the bug, Checkers and Hengman, and actually Checkers being my sounding board led me to my recent state of mind.

Things like 'State' and 'Frame' just come down to a high self esteem and being happy with who you are and getting it on with yourself.

Because what happens after a while ? We develop, slowly but carefully, a better, more structured picture of ourselves in our mind. Our stutter changes into a confident boom, the nervous hands-in-pocket turns into a confident swagger.

Routines, gambits and mind games are good to start with, but with more time spent in the field, you gradually forget to use them. And by this, I mean priorities change. See, going into a set after months of practice, you stop thinking about 'opening' and 'negging', you think about vibing and how to connect. It becomes a people thing, instead of target practice.

When you are ready to enter a set just to vibe and meet them, you're above things like cellphone gambits to get numbers, you already have the balls to do whatever you want at this stage!

So now I think back to all my #-closes since this journey started up until this point, and the stages are as follows.
1) 'Hey, I'm gonna meet my friends so what's your number and we can meet up later?"
2) Pick up my cellphone in A3 and pretend to read a text, then 'Oh hey what's your number'
3) 'Feeling adventurous? Get out your phone'
4) 'Give my your number, you're cute'

The last one I've been using while brandishing my brass balls with great success and led to a girl that never ever gives out numbers, or real numbers, to give me hers...that girl is now my girlfriend and still brings up that moment.

So I've stopped believing in gambits and teaching newcomers to use silly tactics to number close, from now on lesson no1 is always the same. Self confidence.