Killing A Sticking Point

Hey guys, I know I haven't been posting a lot lately but this post should make up for it =p.

Now I haven't posted about it on here but one of my toughest sticking points was approaching when I was alone. This was killer because my main wing is in Portugal and I really don't have a lot of time to go out and "sarge"

So heres the report I posted on my local community (which is really starting to grow, I'm so proud of them!)

I feel like I made some real progress today.

I also think I learned one of the most important lessons in my game.

I have a routine every morning and one of the habits I've gotten into is writing on my forearms. These normally have to do with some sticking point/obstacle of mine. Lately the two mantras I've been tracing into my skin are:

Focus
Power
Action
Control

Pull the Trigger

These shouldn't have to be explained but I've mentioned earlier I was having problems approaching solo. Every day I've been trying to get over this. Speeding my way to the bus stop (late as usual) this morning I see a potential lone wolf sitting at my bus stop. I was almost instantly reminded of Fionns greyhound sarge and I was thinking that to execute this properly I would have to talk to her before the bus came. That way I could isolate on the bus.

I'm walking up, over thinking, fidgeting...there's a big black guy with purple and green shoes next to her...focus Peter!

I stand next to her...god damn it's hot out...I fidget in my backpack, throw my sweater in there...focus!

I look at her, my excuse mechanism says "she could be a little young"

My logic mechanism says "Your a retard...say something"

The bus comes, I pussy out.

I don't sit next to her I just ignore that the whole thing happened. I'm pissed off at myself and I start reading my A+ material. I can't focus though, I'm still way too disappointed in myself. There is no reason logical reason why I couldn't have just opened my mouth and said "hey, whats your name?"

I get to Clairview and my heart starts racing again. If she gets on the train I have another approach opportunity. I slow down and let her walk ahead of me. I watch where shes going...she takes a right, up to the train.

The AA turns on again but this time I remember thinking: "This is fucking bullshit, how the fuck can I organize a forum devoted to Pickup, post under the ego of RonBurgundy and not approach a fucking HB8?" I remembered Charisma and Picasso's field reports, I remembered Damatick posting about his first time out, teaching Futurefast to open and Fionn making out with a girl on a greyhound bus I remembered HBNerdGlasses(you guys won't get that one)and I said "aww...fuck this," I actually said that.

So really it was you guys who pushed me into this, now all I'm thinking is just "Pull the trigger, pull the trigger"

We get on the train

Pull the trigger

I sit across from her

Pull the trigger

Eye contact

Pull the fucking trigger!

RB: "Hey" (I know favor direct game)

HB: "Hey"

RB: "Whats your name?"

HB:"Jade"

Hand shake, eye contact...shes testing for strength,

I give it to her,

RB:"Peter"

And that was it, and I was happy. This was probably only the second solo approach I've ever made.

Now this is where it got weird. I got back to happily reading my material when I noticed her tossing her hair. Now this is a classic IOI and I thought maybe it was just hot out or something. However, she kept doing it, I mean over and over again, it was ridiculous!As we got to Churchill she got up, smiled and said "see ya" in the mousiest little voice.

This is when it hit me, and when I say that it hit me I mean like a fucking bus over a grandma.

She was waiting for me to talk to her the entire time! She WANTED me. Now I can't count the times that I've read in seduction material:

She wants you

She is dying for you to talk to here

Blah blah blah

But it wasn't until now that it fully clicked, and I think that this will truly help me with my solo sets, in fact I opened two more sets today by myself (sorta, more on this later).

Anyways guys, these girls are waiting for you to meet you! That's what I learned today, these guys (and I) want you to approach them and sweep them off their feet.

Another lesson today:

I was busing home with a guy from work (I've actually been thinking about lending him a certain book of mine, he's a horrible AFC and I feel I can help him), and were in the LRT when two girls come down. I can see him eying them but he has a hard time communicating due to speaking poor English but I would tell what he was talking about. They weren't great looking but I really wanted to show him some possibilities.

We get on the train and I make sure to get on the same car as the set. With KD following behind me I set off with fire in my eyes. The set sits down and the girl on the outside puts her feet up on the seat:

Pull the Trigger

Boom

RB: Oh fine, just put your feet there, it's not like I was gonna sit there! (not exactly what I said, something like that).

Now as I was about to sit down the girl had been in the process of putting her feet down, but as I opened she ostentatiously threw her feet out.

RB: Pssh, ya right! I go caveman on her ass and throw them off, I sit down

RB: What's your guys' names?

HB7Braces: I'm HB7 Braces Hand shake

RB: I'm Ron Burgundy, and this is my good looking friend KD!

UgMajorCockBlock: I don't have a name

From here on the set ran well. To tell you the truth I wasn't that interested in the set. Especially after they had shown that they were obnoxious drunk girls. There is nothing sexier than a perfectly sober proper lady, and nothing more unattractive than a obnoxiously drunk chick. However...they were good practice, especially with UgMajorCockBlock constantly shit testing and obstacaling me. I pulled some cold reading on the cock block, told her I knew when she was lying, fished a challenge that she was a wicked liar, than played the five questions game with the target and one of course =).

Perfect IOI's from HB7Braces after that, I'm sure I could have had the close but like I said, definitely not attracted to them.

I learned here: I hate gaming drunk chicks! They are so had to manage it is ridiculous. They are constantly bouncing around and losing focus.

All in all, a good day, and KD was definitely interested when he left the train car =)

There it is!

I've noticed that our community has sort of died down, and that's really too bad. We have a valuable team set up here I think. With TJ and Khaki and Hengman, Decibel, I-Man I think we can really help each other grow...lets get it together guys!

-Shadow