I have an opening, a true story, that I used to use for a help seminar I almost got involved with. That company folded before I had the chance to use this, but I'm thinking it could be valuable in the PUA field. I'm just not sure how. It's packed with a lot of emotion. When I was practicing it, my colleges told me their interest level was extremely high. Here it is:
When I was about ten years old, I used to love to climb to the top of a tall evergreen tree. Up there a fresh wind blew in my face and I could see for miles around. I could see the wind blowing waves into beautiful fields, a farmhouse nearby, and a glass-shining lake. There was no stress about bills, about work performance, or about achieving anything. I was free and full of life. There was a beauty in just being.
Recently I asked myself when was the last time I felt like that. The sad fact is, the last time I felt that way had been when I was atop that tree as a kid. Somehow my adulthood had taken my ability to just be. It had robbed me of being able to feel relaxed and free. I vowed I wanted to get that back. I vowed to figure out how to recapture that feeling. I did. And that’s what this course is about.
So that’s how I was going to open the seminar. That seminar ended up never happening. However, I can see a thoughtful woman getting pulled into the emotion of that opener. However, it was designed to open a seminar, not a woman. It’s an opener in that sense, but I wouldn’t want to open a woman with it. However, what I’m wondering is how I might use this since it is so emotionally powerful. It’s genuine too. That story is real about my life. I’m wondering how to work it into interactions with women to establish a connection. Any ideas?
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Yo man,
That is what we call a comfort building routine that you would use once you have isolated a girl. Based on your question it seems that you probably haven't read many PUA books so i would definitely suggest it. As for your story...
Its a nice routine for sure. But you want to think about what the actual context is. Your saying to the girl that you used to be happy when you were 10 and now the work world has robbed you of it. You need to make sure that you bring it back at the end and let her know that you are happy as hell where you are. Women don't want to be with someone who has problem. So make sure you tell them what you did/doing that is currently making you the happiest guy in the whole world.
Personally, because the story is so serious and emotional, you should break the tension at the end with some comedy. Personally, I would say something like,
"...had robbed me of being able to feel relaxed and free. I vowed I wanted to get that back. I vowed to figure out how to recapture that feeling. So now, during my lunch break, i shimmy up the tallest Macdonald's signs i can find to re-invent the same experience. Ugh, and i wonder why all the fat chicks at work follow me around."
I've read MM, Strauss's The Game, and Double Your Dating.
Yes, comfort. It seems obvious now. I think the confusion was that this was designed to be an "opener," but the opener to a seminar, and it obviously wouldn't work as an opener in PUA.
But, yeah, comfort. Makes complete sense now. I also like the idea of breaking the tension with humor. I like making fun of McDonalds, but I don't think I want to mention fat chicks. Fat is just way too touchy of a subject with women, even with ones that aren't at all fat. Making fun of fat chicks could really backfire. But, yeah, climbing the golden arches, that could be funny.
Yeah i totally agree with you! It sounds ridiculous! Saying "Fat Chicks"....
While it seems really strange, it really fits with my personality. I bet it would fit with yours too...just read TJ's post on being funny. Best post ever! You can find it under the month of March titled, "On Being Funny"
And yeah, i field tested this at least 30 or so times, and its never gone sour. But hey, thats me. See what works for you. But i promise you, if everything is right, using fat chicks wont backfire, its just funny. It kind of a DLV, kind of a DHV, but you can turn it into one hell of a story. Dont over do it though, or else it will backfire!
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